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Say you're walking outside at night and a group of females catch you at gunpoint and try to rape you. What would you do? This isn't a troll post made by some sicko, by the way. It's a serious question.
| Defend myself | 41 | |
| Panic | 17 | |
| Other | 23 |
I'd definitely panic. If there was an opportune moment I might attempt to escape, or alert someone for help by phoning the emergency services from inside my pocket.
Thank you for a serious answer. Since I consider you one of the brains of IIN, would you mind if I asked you:
Why did most of the users not answer the post seriously like you and a few others did? They decided to live up to their stereotype and made up their own stipulations like whether or not the ladies were hot or if a strap on was used and welcomed the rape like it was some sort of happy situation. I thought rape was rape no matter what the circumstance.
Thanks for the compliment, it's appreciated.
I think a lot of people do not realize that when someone asks something like this saying how you would feel if people tried to rape you then you are implying that the people the question is asked to do not want to engage in the sexual acts with them. I don't think most people consider that part. Some would see it as "I get free sex? Well, I would let them" rather than see it as "I am being forced to have sex with people I do not want to have sex with? Well I would react like _______"
There's also probably the few trolling or just trying to make a joke about it. I would of prefered more serious answers on this, too.
But, yeah. I think the main difference here is that they are not seeing it as in "Women that I do not want to have sex with are forcing me in to it (rape)" and more so like "Women I would like to have sex with and would engage in are aggressively trying to have sex with me".
Sometimes you have to be really exact to the people here, as I've noticed, otherwise the point just flies past them.
Being exact wouldn't have helped, you have to take note of the demographic.
I personally don't think men, on average, would be as negatively affected by rape. I do understand what rape is, but I also understand that a lot of the damage rape does to victims tends to be emotional. I know it's a stereotype but, honestly, I'm not sure how badly the average man would deal with it emotionally.
Men in general also don't have quite as much to lose from the situation, since they wouldn't have to go through childbirth or pay for an abortion. Unless they get an STD, they could potentially just go along like that night never happened, which means they wouldn't have to tell anyone about it.
Even if told that it absolutely will not be enjoyable, even I shrug it off as not being that big of a deal IF I'M NOT PHYSICALLY HURT. And by "not a big deal", I don't mean to say it's not bad, not a crime, or not disturbing. What I'm saying is that it wouldn't ruin my life.
In short, I don't blame people for typing "are they hot?"
Yes, it would of helped. Again, sex forced on one but still wanted is not the same as rape.
"I personally don't think men, on average, would be as negatively affected by rape. I do understand what rape is, but I also understand that a lot of the damage rape does to victims tends to be emotional. I know it's a stereotype but, honestly, I'm not sure how badly the average man would deal with it emotionally."
That's very ignorant of you to say. Ofcourse it's just as bad for men when raped. Yes, a lot of the pain with rape is the emotional aspect, so why would that make men less effected? Because men are less emotional? I think that is a bit ignorant, too. Men show less emotions but they still have just as many emotions and it does damage them, especially given the stigma of a male rape victim, he has less help and sympathy, so it could actually be far worse in some cases.
"Men in general also don't have quite as much to lose from the situation, since they wouldn't have to go through childbirth or pay for an abortion."
That would be a female only aspect to rape, however I believe the morning after pill would stop that.
You clearly have not been in a situation where a woman has tried to force herself on you...It isn't pretty.
At no point did I ever say it was wanted, or that it would be pretty. But yes, I do think men are less emotional. However ignorant you think it is, I stand by what I said. Different people deal with things differently, and not every rape victim is guaranteed to need counseling.
Before you read that and re-type the definition of rape, note that rape is simply forcing someone to have sex who doesn't want to or did not give proper consent. All of the feelings normally associated with the word aren't actually mandatory.
Again, I'm not trying to put up absolutes here. I don't think rape is a joke, or that male rape shouldn't be taken seriously. I just disagree with the notion that we should lose respect for any man in the comment section who hinted that they wouldn't mind. The definition of rape is a little more broad than I think we're considering.
No, I haven't been in a situation where a woman has tried to force herself on me. A vast majority of men haven't. Most male rape victims were raped as children or by other males.
The only way more detail would have helped is if you added ugly enough details as to distract from the fact that it's a rape attempt. In other words, changing the subject.
If they were ugly, diseased, and tried to use foreign objects, then Id fight like hell. If they were hot, disease free, and only used their mouths and vaginas, then your question would be moot because it wouldnt be rape.
So what you're saying is you wouldn't mind being raped? I sort of find that disturbing...
Unfortunately, I think they're all saying they would consent..
What would their girlfriends think?
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That's a very worrying attitude to me. If you can choose to define consent however you want, you can excuse any rape very easily. Consent is completely meaningless if different people define it in different ways.
Many people become sexually aroused while being raped. Many even have an orgasm. It's a well-documented phenomena; run a Google search and you'll easily find countless examples. That's a kind of enjoyment. But if you say that enjoyment implies consent, you're saying that people who feel aroused while being raped are not real rape victims. A definition of rape which excludes people who are aroused just isn't one which grasps the concept.
It's half and half. Consent cn be other things other than a verbal yes but ofcourse there are extents to which someone should continue without those varifications of consent. For example, if you initiate the sexual activity and they show enjoyment and take part in it before it actually leads to intercourse, and so on.
The question was what would they do if a group of females tried to rape you, he indicated he would enjoy it and said nothing of wanting to defend himself or of his displeasure of it taking place, all he said is that he would enjoy it, he didn't specify if that was merely a physical enjoyment he would gain.
I think you're being far too specific on his wordings here, but I'm positive he meant it as I explained, all you can do now is ask him. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong, although I get the feeling I am not.
Id start swinging for the fences, clockin bitches left and right. NO MEANS NO BITCHES!!!
What kind of rape? Am I in the mood for sex?
Following criteria must be met, for me to not mind being raped:
a) I must be in the mood (which I am 90% of the time)
b) No diseases
c) No extremely unattractive rapists
d) No penetration of my body with foreign objects (f.e. strap-ons)
And no male rapists, but the OP already mentioned it.
These are rapists. Chances are they're unattractive, have diseases, and they're GOING to do stuff to you to make you suffer, so yes there might be foreign objects.
I second Unimportant's post. If they are hot and not using any foreign objects and penetration, I'm game!
It's not going to be a rape. Just one very busy night for me and a very painful morning with ice on my crotch! XD
If not, fight with every trick in the book!
I'm not a guy but I voted to defend myself. Idk what kinda nasties they got.
Well, you have to be specific.
What do they look like? How many are there? How physically fit are they?
Because I'm pretty sure I would try to disarm three women who are not in as good of shape as I am. I can't own a firearm (legally) so carrying any weapon on my person at any time is a risk. Being that I'm am ex-con, getting violent with a woman is a risk.
I'd likely just mitigate the legal risks for a hospital trip and some serious humiliation. I'm not new to violence, so adding a sexual element might not change it way too much.
Try to overpower them and run away. It's a street gangrape, I seriously doubt I'm going to get out of it unharmed. It's a group of crazy women and at least one of them has a gun pointed at me.
Best case scenario, I get raped, pistol-whipped, and left in an alley. Worst case scenario, I get raped and then my dick gets chopped off and I bleed out.
If I got raped and that was all that happened, I'd chalk it up to sheer good luck, go home, avoid that street from then on, and brag about it to my friends. Though it would be a pretty empty story since no one would believe me.
That last scenario is pretty unlikely though, so I would say that any response other than "Defend myself" is pretty foolish.
Because just the act itself wouldn't actually bother me much. I'd be more worried about my safety, health, and what could come around in 9 months if they somehow track me down.
No STDs, no baby yet, and the police investigation is pending. In the meantime, I'm telling the story of how a group of random women found me attractive enough to rape.
But again, I don't think I would survive the encounter in the first place unless I got out of there before the incident happened.
There are too many other variables. Survival is all about assessing the situation.
Is it the normal kind of penetration or are they going to try and strap-on my ass?
Do they intend to kill me afterwards anyways?
Are the women decent looking, or do they look like mutants?
What kind of gun is it?
Wnat is the setting like?
Is it day or night?
I think a lot of these people are being super unrealistic about how traumatizing it must be to be raped. Even being raped by someone who is otherwise attractive would be horrific if you had no control, no choice, no idea what the hell they were going to do with you. Some commenters seem to be treating it like some hot porn fantasy, which I think is pretty fucked up.
I honestly don't know. I thought people would try to fend off a rapist, not be happy to get raped. I can sort of see now why no one I know takes male rape seriously...
This sounds more like a fantasy men already have than a bad scenario. Are you a woman?
Been waiting for this my whole life [gets naked] go ahead- take me, rapists! ;-)
For me it wouldn't be rape and they wouldn't need to point guns at me because if a group of women wanted to have sex with me, then that would be awesome. and yeah of course, i'd be scared as hell if somebody did actually point a gun at me