Guys: if you're on a dating site and saw a woman that...

Being a girl you are highly likely to get swarmed with messages on dating sites, no matter what kind of profile and pics you have. I knew this acquaintance who got so overwhelmed with the overload of messages that she deactivated her account in days

In my one and only experience of hooking up with someone from a dating site, she had just one slightly blurry picture in front of a bathroom mirror with no makeup, tousled hair, glasses, eyes that looked bulbous from having woken up, wearing loungewear. She hit me up and when we ended up meeting, she was mind-numbingly gorgeous in comparison.

Moral of hte story: don't underestimate the powah of a casual or tomboyish pic

You're going to attract guys who like natural and probably athletic girls. The ones who are into high maintenance girls won't respond to you, but that's okay because you're not that type of chick anyway. Just be yourself. You want to meets guys with whom your compatible.

How about..... U be urself

I have NEVER met a woman who could improve on her natural looks by painting herself up like a clown. I wouldn't and have never dated a woman who wore make up. I hate the look, smell and attitude of someone who feels they need to hide behind all that junk. Same for outfits; if you are wearing hose and heels, I wouldn't be at all interested. A pair of shorts and a tank top, paddling a kayak, and you be on a plane to the Caribbean the next day.
As Rose said, for you it will depend on what kind of man you are seeking. If you want someone athletic and outdoorsy, then forgo the make up and heels. If you want a 9 to 5 yuppie, then perhaps the make up and heels would be a better fit. Tell us what you are seeking and if there are some like that on here, you'll get your answer.

I've never been into makeup or anything fake looking on a girl.

this reminds me of a dream i had like a week ago. this lady told me she didn't like to wear makeup or dress all up like some kind of doll. i told her she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to do. i told her i would still like her all the same. the scene changed and we were outside which seemed to be like a city, sitting on a bench together and she was afraid that i'd be scared of her. i looked her in the eyes and i said, listen, i'm not scared of you. i'm not... scared, of you.. i'm still here.

i didn't even know this woman, never seen her before in my life.

and now i'm going to tell you don't listen to those who say you have to do this, or that to get the attention. if someone is interested, let it be because you show yourself true to who you are. and not what others want. because not everyone is the same. and you are right not to do it and saying its lying about who you are, because that's the truth, if that's not who you are, you are lying about yourself. do something because its what you want to do. you are free to always change your mind if you choose something, let it be because its what you wanted.

Treat the pic like a resume. You don't want to lie, but a pic can only say so much about what kind of person you are so make sure your best has a chance of shining through.

I say that natural beauty is the best kind of beauty.
You don't need all that crap the media says you do. Be yourself. That shows a lot more of what the person is, opposed to hiding behind 300$ worth of cosmetics XD

While I (As a guy) do enjoy a woman with sexy makeup that underlines her best features, what's real is what matters most.

Use your dating profile to get rid of guys that don't interest you. In this way you are wasting much less of your time with potentially bad boyfriends. Don't wear make up. Do say things about yourself that would interest the type of men you want, and turn away the ones you don't want.

As for me personally yes I would be more attracted to a girl who is different with less makeup and stuff. But im different. Idk what kind of people go on dating sites but either way just dress and pose how you want you wouldnt want to attract someone who has been mislead and is under the wrong impression. That would be a waste of time.

If you don't want to wear make-up and clothes you don't feel comfortable in, there are loads of other things you can do to look more attractive. Make sure your photos are well lit and your expression is open and approachable (e.g. smile). Use photos to express your personality and some of your interests - this helps you stand out and will instantly intrigue likeminded guys. You could even use a professional photographer to get some really nice pics of yourself. If you do it right you'll convey a friendly, down-to-earth feel which plenty of guys will find attractive - in the world of online dating it's refreshing.

Just because you don't like make-up and skimpy clothes, doesn't mean you can't try hard if you want to. A good rule of thumb is to have a photo where you dress how you would on a real life date (whatever that means for you).

Anyway, good luck! :)

I wouldn't go on a dating sight, but got nothing wrong with it. If I was o go on it, no, I wouldn't. I like the plain look above all, jeans and so on. If she was ok looking without make up, then sure, probably more than those with make up because I wouldn't know what they look like without it.

That said, most would probably prefer you with make up, make up makes people look better than they actually are, but if you wanted to tough it out to find someone that accepts your appearance for what it is (which I think would be better), I would upload the non-make up pictures.

Plain look is better in my opinion, maybe not for the majority or maybe I am wrong and the majority do feel the same. Why not test it out and post two pictures to see which one gets the results you want from a different site then use the picture that got the reaction you wanted for the site? Hell, even upload them here, I'm sure we can help out on that, too.