Guys find me attractive and wanna have sex with me but...

Maybe you go into sex to fast, and therefor they see you as easy. MEN LIKE WHAT THEY CANT HAVE x

There's another consideration though; that you're attracted to guys/people who obviously aren't looking for a steady relationship.

From what you say, I'd have thought that there'd be a queue of guys waiting to have a steady relationship with you, but they're boring? Too safe? Straight-laced? Not exciting enough?

Just a thought, but you might well be attracted to people who wouldn't actually want a steady relationship, simply because of the type of person they are and lifestyle they have.

Why would a guy want to be your girlfriend? jk

I don't know if this applies to most other guys but listen to his words carefully next time. If he calls you sexy, hot, or attractive he may be implying innuendo and probably just want a one night stand.

However if I like a girl as a potential girlfriend I would take it slower, ask her out on a date and compliment her with a less suggestive term such as you're pretty, beautiful, elegant, etc.,etc.

Maybe these guys just aren't looking for a serious relationship. Or maybe you are so high strong about having a boyfriend you scare them away. Relax and don't worry about it. The day you stop looking for a boyfriend might be the day that you actually find one. It happened to me and we have been together for 3 years now.

Ask yourself why would a guy not want a sexy, attractive woman for their girlfriend.

Obviously, sexiness and attractiveness aren't the problem.

There's a few things which might put a guy off even the sexiest lady.

Personality: selfishness, possessiveness, insecurity etc.

Maybe too eager? Or too aloof? Bad history? Advertising the wish to settle down too quick?

I don't know you, of course, so I'm only speculating.

anal, your not doing enough anal

OK so thank you everyone for so intelligent comments. I think this is even better than a therapy. It's been awhile since I posted this up and I'll tell you what happened next. Most of you who commented on this point has a point. Very good one infinity! Yes I was bi but I never got into a serious relationship with a girl before and within these last few months I am actually dating a girl which turned out as a relationship where I am loved, cared and all. Besides being in the position of a guy I understand all the mistakes that I did before such as nagging, possessiveness, jealousy and all. These are also true. And yes whenever I liked a guy if I didn't have sex with them immeadetly I would lose interest in them. And with that excitement, passion the sex was mostly great however as ruralfights said I did the exact mistake first I slept with them for awhile then expected a relationship. It's like giving a loan and there is not much you can do if they don't even wanna buy you a burrito. Now I get a lot of things straight and many of you have a good point. I really appreciate it. Hoping not to make the same mistakes learning from these lessons again. :)

Not trying to be mean, but, maybe they think ur braggy and sef-absorbed

Rural is right

You must be meeting them in bars. Guys that go there to meet girls are not usually wanting committment. Try a church singles ministry. Also, you may be giving off a vibe that attracts the wrong kind of guy. Be careful how you dress and don't try too hard.

I handled my relationship with a girl pretty well, I am the boss you know ;) But I dunno how things will go when I date a guy that I really like again. I am a little scared about that.

Depends on your relations BEFORE these problems arise. All due respect, but if your sleeping with them, THEN want a commitment, you'll be lucky if he buys you a $1.00 burrito and gives you a ride to the nearest bus station,.

I'll go out with you.

Expand your search. That's likely most of it. Make sure you are meeting guys who share your interests - beyond being pretty, bright & employed (which are not exactly flaws!!!).

But what I mean is develop male friendships based on actual interests (theatre, sports, outdoor activities - whatever) - if you don't have interests acquire some.

You remind me a lot of my friend who is very pretty and intelligent but couldn't really hang on to any of her 12 previous boyfriends. I've never heard their side of the story but for some reason I have a gut feeling she's been smothering her men and not giving them any space.

Like previous posters, I recommend that you consider this as a possibility in addition to appearing needy and all the rest of it.

Otherwise, don't worry too much about it. I have single male friends and they are perfectly capable of looking at a girl and saying "dude, she's hot, check her out" but not actually even consider asking her out on a date. This happens quite a lot unfortunately.

maybe youre not telling us everything

I think you are confused about what you want, as your opening sentance says,

"Everytime I like a guy they say that I am pretty, and attractive but they back off when it comes to being my girlfriend"

Do you want a girlfriend, or a boyfriend. Decide that first, and the rest will follow.

I agree with Pi. Do you think you're maybe putting yourself out there too early? Too available/eager? I'm not saying play hard-to-get, but if you seem needy and possessive right off the bat (and I'm not saying you do) it's going to be a turn-off. Guys are looking for a partner, a friend, someone they can hang out with and have a good time, not just someone they think is attractive and intelligent. They want to know that if they were to date you, their lives could continue almost the same in addition to having a cool, attractive girl to spend time with. Don't try so hard, just let it happen and if you're still having problems then you're just dating the wrong kinds of guys.

wrong guys then. find somebody more complicated