Guys and trust issues

I have very serious trust issues. It destroys every relationship i ever attempt to have. i try to trust but i always catch myself looking for a reason not to. and the sad thing is every time i look i find something. its not that i think girls aren't able to be faithful to ME. i just think every girl i meet or am interested in is just not able to be faithful period. i am 24 years old, every girl i know thinks i am "hot". i have never cheated on a girl i have dated. the smallest things set my jealousy/distrust issues off. especially since most girls i know only have male friends. the last girl i dated goes out with her (one of two) female friends every weekend. sounds innocent enough except makes me wonder why i'm never invited? not that i want to go but if i'm not even invited it makes me wonder. then i got curious because i don't really trust her, so i went through her cell phone and checked her text messages and found (from a guy i don't know) "had a great time with you can't wait to do it again" so i freaked out and started asking questions (yelling) turns out her and her friend picked up a couple guys they know and were riding around town with them (supposedly that's all that that went down) but still, she was supposed to be at her friends watching a movie and turns out they were riding around with a couple guys and she failed to mention it to me. reason enough for me to fly off the handle and that's exactly what happened. this is probably too long for you people to even bother reading so i will stop there.

Im a guy i wouldnt dare think about cheating on a girl.

I know that most of my friends worry about their girlfriend cheating on them, but its because we know that if a guy likes a girl, he'll try and hit on her. I wouldnt say its so much theyre worried about the girl cheating, its more so another guy trying to make a pass at his girlfriend. If that makes sense.

I guess I don't really care anymore. I have cheated and been cheated on. I guess until 2 people that get together that love each other so much that they arent out fucking someone else it will always happen. So until then I just keep lookin..... and fucking.

I trust in my girlfriend. I know she won't cheat.

Most guys are like that.

But alot of girls are like that too.

TALK to her tell her what your thinking.

most of us guys dont have trust problems

are you a skank? idk.. i have a skanky friend that cheated on every boyfriend she ever had.. her boyfriends(even fuck buddies).. dont trust her.

but ive been monogomous for awhile, and have never cheated on any boyfriend... under any circumstance... all my boyfriends have trusted me.... even with sleeping over a guy friends house. (he had been my friend since before preschool)

Pretty much

If a girl (or guy) wants to cheat, she will. and theres nothing noone can do about it, so yes it is a matter of self-confidence (and trust), you shouldent be thinking "i sooo have to get her to NOT cheat on me" but instead just enjoy yourselves and make the most of it.

peace JAH bless

If I had a boyfriend I would want them to know that I would never cheat on them.

Ya, I kinda am untrusting of, pretty much anyone. The one person I got farthest with in my relationship, I had sex with. I found out she had also had sex with 2 other guys while I was dating her.

I have had a girl practically force me into dateing them just so they can get the girl I was dating at the time to leave me. That happened with the one girl I am truly in love with, I don't think I can ever forgive it.

I've also had other girls flirt with other guys. I don't mind girls flirting with me when they are dating other guys, but that even further decreases my trust in them. If they can cheat on them, they surely can cheat on me. Then, the first girl I ever dated told me that the entire time we were dating, she was using a fake myspace account. She gave me the real one and I verified it with a cam chat (It was long distance). But that heavily decreased my trust in her. I don't know how much betrayal I can handle anymore.

2 years ago (when i was stragight) i had a girlfriend. She cheated on me with 2 guys in one night. I couldnt take the pain anymore and i said to myself "i will never date a girl again" so i decided to try males. ever since the night i meet my dream man i couldnt resist but get more. I fell in love with a man and im proud of it. Try males you will love it ;]

See but the problem isn't then with that person if your to busy looking for the negative then no matter what they do your going to be assuming the worst it has nothing to do with that person themselves but with issues your dealing with unfortunately your going to pay the price because you might end up running off your mate because you won't put enough trust in them as they put in you also it tends to be the person who is worried about cheating the most is the one who has it on there mind more often then not if your looking for something your sure as hell going to find it we live in a society that values monogamy but are sometimes incapable of maintaining it but that doesn't mean everyone is out to get you if you don't at least trust that person not to cheat then no amount of reassurance is going to work you have to be willing to get hurt or you cant really open up or love anyone

it all depends on the individual--- values, morals--- committment, I can't trust any men...I'd have to know them for years before that ever happens so I guess a guy could be the same-- depends on how deeply some one hurts you.got to find the right one..

i don't think all guys have trust issues. but if you do then my solution would be not to date the slutty type. although guys seem to like those kind of girls, they are pretty much guaranteed to mess around with other guys just like she's been doin to you. just sayin. and if your with a nice girl that really likes you then she won't cheat. trust me.

Im a girl and I have the same problem. I don't know about guys but for some reason I have created a sterotypical view that guys don't care so I wpuld like to know how guys view a relationship

Normally when a man(or woman for that matter) becomes untrusting its because he's been hurt in the past. Once you've been cheated on its hard to recover from that psychological blow, especially if the relationship really meant something.

You should just try your best to reassure to him that your faithful and if he still doesn't trust you you need to evaluate whether or not its worth being in the relationship.

It all depends on what you mean by "cheat". I'm a butterfly - one night is all you get. I'm off elsewhere the next night. That's not cheating because I never made a promise.

If a guy is insecure about something like that, then maybe you should stop being insensitive and reassure him. :/

most guys have the thoughts themselves but know they either can or cant control themselves but htey dont know if their girlfriend is or not

Id have to say if a girl cheated on me it would piss me off more then anything in the world so of course I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure she doesnt do it.

yeah all guys think girls cheat because that is what they do!!!!!

uuuh......i think its just you.

haha no but i trust my gf, its actually her that has trouble trusting me (and for no good reason, mind you)

trustworthiness is just so oldskool, who needs it nemore