Grown kids at home

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I have two kids who are grown living with me one pays rent the other has no job and a baby. She wont get a job runs off in my car has legal problems. I have paid for 2 lawyers for her so far and it isnt over.I feel that they disrespect me after I have helped them both out.I want them to leave but I dont want to live alone here. My husband died in Feb. dad in May. They both dont care about me at all just use me for what they can get.I cant kick them out and feel sorry for them. Now my sons friend has moved in here. I feel like I am running a hotel. I wonder is it normal to want to help everyone like I do financially?

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Based on 36 votes (14 yes)
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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    Well you are not doing them a favor but not teaching them the valuable tool called independence. What would happen when you go? You can't expect this to continue forever.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    It's an unhealthy situation. Maybe you could move to a smaller house, forcing their independence.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think that you give them too much and they are ungrateful. If you stop supporting them it would be the best you'll do. Let them grow

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  • abnormalfeline
    11 years ago

    No it's not normal, when your children reach the age where they can make life decissions then you should let them go. What would your husband do in this situation? Kick them out to fend for themselfs, you need friends and yes your alone but it could be peacefull and for that I'm 100% sure your husband would agree. I'm sorry that you are going through this but you need to be strong, they wil survive!

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    In nature, when a baby crocodile doesn't know when it's time to leave the mother's nest, she turns and eats him. I say this because, there comes a time where a mother has to put her foot down. I know you love your kids, but sometimes it's safe to show tough love. They are not respecting you and don't seem to be grateful for the things you've done for them. It's time to kick them out. If not, things will only get worse for you, and I'm sure you are tired of having to pay the bills for all of them and they are not even showing repect for that. It will also teach them indepence. After all, you won't be there for ever and they are going to need to learn to take care of themselves. I'm very sorry to here about your husband and father and I wish you the best for your losses, but keeping your children around doesn't seem to be healthy for you, and I imaging it's very stressful. Just try to find a way to let them know they can't stay with you anymore. It may take time, but the way things are going doesn't seem to be working.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    You need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself and tell them to get some independence.

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    I am sorry for your losses...I'm sure you're still trying to recover from those, however, I think it's time you kick your kids out and let them find their own way in life. I know you have a big heart and just want to see the best for your kids, but they are becoming an overwhelming factor in your already stressed life. You can wish them well from afar....now, push them to curb and enjoy the years you have left!

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    Kick them out if they're that troublesome if they were still living at home for the purpose of saving up till they get their own place or if they're pursing their education it'd be another story, at least the other one pays rent. Be strong and make them leave it's called tough love, they will thank you for it one day.

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