Glad that my cousin is dead?

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Ok, so here's my story. Recently, my cousin who is 28 years old just committed suicide. He took a shotgun and shot his own head with it. So we drove to his funeral and honored his memory like any family should do. But heres my problem, the thing is, was my cousin and me really did not get along when he was alive. We always ended up arguing and fighting over little stuff. So basically, what I want to know is: Is it normal for a person to not have any feelings about their family member dying? It's like, I know some part of me should feel bad for my cousin, but for some reason its almost like I feel like CELEBRATING that he's dead, while everyone else seems to be SAD and CRYING that he's dead. Is this normal?

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Based on 87 votes (47 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • beearch
    12 years ago

    Don't try and create feelings that don't exist. It quite ok not to feel sad if your cousin was a cunt.

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  • Pisslan616
    12 years ago

    That is cold.

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  • Vetterman
    12 years ago

    I can understand the lack of remorse over his death, you obviously didnt like him beyond the arguing. I only hope that you didnt do anything to show it at the funeral or around his family.
    Also, there is a mental condition (i dont know if its really a disorder) that causes weird emotional reactions in people rather than deal with death. I have seen people laugh at funerals. I think its a form of denial.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    u really experience joy at someone's death just bc you argued with them? are you 7?

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    Arguing is petty. And it's a bad reason to want someone dead.

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  • _edinboro
    12 years ago

    No problem there. One of my cousins is a complete bitch and if I found out she was dead I wouldn't go to the funeral. Don't bother trying to make up feelings you don't have.

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  • magdalena11
    12 years ago

    This is completely normal. It is part of the grieving process. Don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes someone is the bane of our existence, and when they are gone, we have an uncontrolled feeling of happiness that that stress is gone from our lives.

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  • ICeicebaby7492
    12 years ago

    THe fact that u dont feel sad is normal the fact that you want to celebrate death of someone who only aregued with you is messed up but your perogitive.

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  • chewy
    12 years ago

    Im i the only fucked up one who laughed at this? haha sure you can argue with me but that wont work this story is hilarious it brings you joy and it brings me to joy to see the people that you hate to die :D

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I'm glad I'm not your cousin. I don't ever want anyone to be glad when I'm dead.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    later you will feel different and realise it is sad for a young life to be cut short and how you 2 would change and mature. but sadly he is stuck young and annoying forever but your attitude will change

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Yeah, I have some family members that I wouldnt cry for if they met an untimely demise. Normal.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I don't think your cousin's age is as important to us as your age.<BR><BR>Perhaps you haven't experienced death as a loss in your family before to see how deep it affects us, or you're not equipped with the right vocabulary to express how you really feel. I can understand if you don't really care deeply, but I doubt trivial arguments would make you want to celebrate his death. Perhaps, if you were older you could empathise with some of the problems he obviously had. <BR><BR>I agree with Vetterman. Do not express these feelings EVER to you family! This is not a time to be childish, and what you say now will NEVER be forgiven or forgotten.<BR><BR>God love him.

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