Girls disappear after 1-2 dates, iin?

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Met a really nice girl through a friend. We had dinner one night, and I had a great time! We talked for almost two hours and at the end she asked me if I wanted to hang out some more. I said of course!

That weekend we went to a see a show together and had a great time! Again when she was leaving she asked if I wanted to spend more time with her and I said yes, absolutely! I invited her to come with me to go out during the week. She said she would check her schedule and get back to me.

During the week she made a bunch of excuses that didn't really make sense, but I played along and didn't make a big deal about it. "Here we go again" I think to myself.

Just to be sure, I tried to text her a few times during the weekend, but she didn't respond. Yup, she's gone.

This isn't the first time that this has happened (not even close). Actually I'm so used to it that it barely even bothers me anymore. But I've been single for about five years now and have lost count of how many first dates I've been on.

Is it normal?

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  • Aliceee93
    10 years ago

    They obviously weren't the girls for you. You'll meet a lovely girl one day :) what's for you won't miss you.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    She texted me again yesterday saying that she was busy and wants to hang out again this weekend! :)

    I'm glad that she didn't go away but we're going to have to have a talk about why it's so hard to reach her...

    And her excuses are just comically bad...

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Honestly if you really are into her I wouldn't lecture her on the excuses, as stupid as it sounds women don't want to think you aren't dating a bunch of other women at the same time because they stupidly need to think they "beat" out all the other women vying for you.

      Its why guys who are scumbags and cheaters almost always get laid more than "nice" guys.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        10 years ago

        Don't give me that PUA bullshit. All women are different and I'm just trying to be honest. As far as I'm concerned, if that doesn't push her buttons in the right way then she can go find another guy.

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        • Crusades
          10 years ago

          You sound like a SIMP.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            10 years ago

            lol all I'm saying is that I expect her to take me for who I am and that's all I can do. It would be stupid to lie to her that I'm seeing other women, because I'm not.

            I feel sorry for all those people who believe that PUA bullshit where you have to lie, tell stories, say magic words, and stand on your head to keep a woman interested in you.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              Welcome to the dating game, better start practicing the head stands, although honestly it doesn't work that well for me. I probably need to change cologne or my face or something.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          And if you lecture on that all she is gonna hear is "I'm insecure and a whiner" but go ahead Don Juan, have at it.

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  • KillerQueen
    10 years ago

    I think Gspyder is right. Too interested signals desperate or too easy, which you're probably not. Most girls do like to have to chase a little or put in some effort to entice a man. It makes them feel securer in the early days.

    I don't think I'm explaining this very well, but I'd suggest at first slow it down and either don't jump at her first offer (Looks like you haven't got a life i.e too available) or take the lead and offer to meet her/take her out in another 2 weeks, and say maybe 1 or 2 general txts in-between. You don't need to play games or lie, you just need to give her time to miss you and feel excited with the wait to see you. Meanwhile you get on with doing your thing and let things develop slowly.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Believe me, I'm not acting too interested.

      The first time that she bailed on me I had no plans to text her at all until she came calling again.

      She actually flaked out again this weekend and I'm not going to respond even if she does try to reach out again unless she has a really convincing explanation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    They are just not that into you maybe? I must not be very current when it comes to these abbreviations though. "SIMP" and "PUA" and whatnot.

    These girls do not sound very suitable for you, but I wish you luck on your next date! I hope it goes well for you, and perhaps you two are a little compatible.

    I at least try to reply back to texts though. What excuses did she make? I am curious!

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Lol, I had to look up what PUA means also.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      She was too tired from putting together IKEA furniture.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        That's too stupid not to be true!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It happens when dating.

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    I used to have this happen. I think you may be coming across as too interested, for those girls anyway. if that makes sense. As stated above though, it won't matter when you meet someone more suitable for you.

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