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Im in my mid twenties and have what I consider to be old man hobbies. I like gardening, amateur radio, numismatics, high end audio and fishkeeping. If you met such a guy with these hobbies would you consider him to be datable, weird, or does he have too much going on? Would greatly apreciate your thoughts...
Would you turn down a girl who was perfect for you but happened to have some old fashioned hobbies?
Probably not.
David Beckham is into Lego. Johnny Depp is into Barbie Dolls. Rod Stewart is into model trains. They were/are the fantasy men of a lot of ladies, despite these unusual hobbies.
So stop worrying. Compatible personalities and physical attraction are far more important.
Hm... What about weirdly datable?? Huh? ^¬^
Hey! Anyways, no one's perfect and were all different! There's gotta be someone out there for you!
30 year old women are going to love you. Most 21 year old women are too busy drinking and going to clubs to be interested in a guy isn't partying a ton.
Dateable. Whats the personality and face like? I would join in on the gardening.
Most all you need, is to be visually attractive! Read my profile, on how to be an attractive guy! Because I'm trying not to write too much in one comment.
Your hobbies don't matter for dating, in my opinion. People can want to be with each other, even if their hobbies differ. It's good enough that you have hobbies, regardless what they are. I'll cheer for you enjoying what you do.. Though, even if you decide to take up hobbies that you think will make you more dateable-- that's also up to you. You probably don't need to, but I won't judge you for it, either if you do that.
A gal might also feel relieved, to know that you're not judging her, for her hobbies, either. I think some types of guys, who think their own hobby is supposedly super cool, will make a girl feel belittled because she doesn't have the same hobby as him. And not appreciate whatever her hobbies are.
I don't think so. The only reason I talk about the controversially superficial topic, of how to look good, is specifically because- I think guys should try to be as pleasing to girls. Instead of only expecting girls to visually please guys. If I didn't see it representing sexism in our world, then I wouldn't bring it up. I otherwise wouldn't normally talk about something as superficial as looks, without a good reason.
You seem to assume what you think looks good on a guy is what every woman thinks looks good.
It isn't.
This. I find it offensive on behalf of men...and I find the implication that women are sexist or whatever if they happen to like a different look equally offensive.
There's no problem with her liking a particular look...many people do have preferences, but to imply that it is "the" way for men to look attractive is offensive and, as C.C stated, immature.
My bf has short hair...often very short...and he couldn't be more attractive if he tried. And his looks are just a bonus...I fell for who he is. Fuck knows why he wastes his time on me hah.
I want to discuss this. But-
You have been really pushy, in your comments with me, elsewhere. Regardless what the topic of debate is, you seem to be following after me, on this site. I have also seen you harass other users.
I want to discuss topics with other users. But I'm going to ask that you do not comment on my threads anymore. I do not like pushy people.
Also, I can tell that you have multiple accounts.
Not quite- what I actually mean is, I'm pretty sure BOTH genders are attracted to hair.
Women who ARE attracted to men with hair, are screwed over by our sexist social environment- which implies that mostly, only men enjoy their sexuality, and women have to be sidelined. So, I feel best when I suggest to guys, that they grow their hair out. Also, stereotypically there are guys who want to know how to attract girls- who may like my advice. And men do not have to specify that they wish women would grow their hair out, like I do for men, because women already do try to look good for men. There's no sexist imbalance against men. Other women like men with hair as well. I'm not being immature for saying so.
For anyone who likes short-haired men, I don't understand why they'd feel threatened by my saying so. 99% of the male population already have crew cuts or buzz cuts! Short-hair lovers already have what they want.
Even though some women like short haired men, it could be that half of women (and men) like short-haired. The other half like long-haired. Just because not every woman thinks long-haired looks good, doesn't change the fact that the estimated half of us who do like long haired- are being screwed over. While men feel entitled to a world that flashes pretty women. That's why it's not fair to us, and that's why I say so.
You say on your profile that men who have short hair are unattractive - and suggest that short hair on males is because 'society' doesn't want women to be visually pleased.
You say that all men should grow their hair long, and that this is the MOST important factor in being visually appealing to women.
Girls only care about appearance, so as long as you don't look like a rock, you'll get pussy.
In the end, it all comes down to your personality. Your hobbies seem fine, as well.
It would be good in a relationship. It's attractive for a man to have interests.
I think with girls its like you can have your hobbies as long as you always have a jobbie
Whilst these things doesn't really appeal to me i wouldn't turn you down for it as long as you had some interests in common with me. But I would doubt that one with those ...calmer mature interests would enjoy someone with a wilder taste.
The only thing I can tell you is this... it doesn't really matter if you have strange hobbies, unless that's the only thing your life revolts around. There is a similar issue with videogames... no one cares, unless you only talk about them or play 10 hours a day and spend all your money on them.
fishkeeping? i dont know but i think anyone who is nice to their pet is loveable by someone.....btw could u add cooking?
I think it's an attractive trait in a guy who has the confidence to be himself (as long as he's not hurting anybody) and not apologize for it. If it makes you feel better, one of my favorite hobbies is watching documentaries while sitting in my favorite chair, wearing my PJs and sipping hot tea with a bit of honey it (I'm 20 by the way).
To some extant, it may prove advantageous for you to pursue such hobbies, even with dating considered. Consider the fact that people tend to bond over shared interests and hobbies; even if these are 'old man hobbies' or if your interests are slightly left-field, the fact that so few people that are into such things might give you an edge over other men, as you will be able to appeal more to women who share such minority interests, while avoiding the competition that comes with holding too many cookie-cutter interests and taste. Of course, on the flip side, such women as those that share your interests might be rare, but if you come across such a woman, the two of you will likely become good friends at least (and you'll have conversation-starters, I'm sure).
Well, considering most people would not have those things as hobbies, it would be hard to find people that relate to your interests.
Why not take up other hobbies that a large proportion of people also take part in?
If you are looking for someone, given that most would not be interested in such things, why not just not go in to those things? I am sure there are other things you are interested in that the majority are also in to.
You would be datable for people like this, however I would say it would be harder to find someone that would be interested in you due to those hobbies, not that having those hobbies are bad, do what you like, but if you're trying to make romance a priority, use other hobbies you have that most would share to use as something to relate to another.