Girlfriend of 11 years is leaving me even though she still loves me.

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My Girlfriend of 12 years broke up with me recently, She is moving to another country to teach English and feels like we need to break up so she can fully experience life.
She first told me about a year ago she wanted to move there, I was reluctant on the idea as I know her very well and thought she would not cope there, she is very fragile sometimes. She eventually made her decision and then broke up with me. This almost killed me as she is my soulmate and my best friend.We know each other so well that we are normally thinking the same thing. After a few week we got back together as she realized she couldn't not be with me. Things were pretty good after that, I told her that I supported her decision to move and just wanted her to be happy. She wanted me to move there as well, We spoke about marriage, and me finding a job there. I was fully on Bord, We were good. Then late week she told me it wasn't going to work. She said she still loves me but we need to grow separately. We have been going out since we were in high School. We have never been with anyone else.
The thing is she does love me more than anything but she wants to push away from me to grow.
I wish I could forget about her but I love her so much.
I get Physically sick everyday. I'm trying very hard not to break down as Ive done this already and it was not good.
She still wants to see me before she goes 'cause she loves me so much, she keeps telling me this. I just feel so confused and hurt. Is her behavior normal? Do you think that I'm wrong for not wanting her to go?
Note that we have spent most of our lives together, We've gone through ups and downs,but never this bad.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    She needs to do what she needs to do and sorry, but you have to accept it. You're not wrong to want to keep her with you, but neither is she wrong for wanting to check out life without you.

    It's normal for her to want to do this when neither of you have been with anyone else and also normal for this to be painful for you.

    She's more likely to come back to you if you let her go with love and focus on a life without her: who knows, it may not be for ever.

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  • Calvin1289
    7 years ago

    Thanks for the comments,it's nice to see what other people think on the situation.
    Haven't spoken to her in a week.
    Which is a long time for us as we normally talk at least once a day for the last 12 years.
    I kind of have to rewire my brain, I think.

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  • ilovetoteabagsally
    7 years ago

    Let her go

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  • ViolentKitty
    7 years ago

    Let her do as she pleases because if you don't she will forever be resentful to you. I'm sure what you're going through is very painful, but this might actually benefit you too. It sounds like you both have a lot of love for each other so theres definitely a possibility you can get back together once you both are ready. Either way, good luck to you both...hope everything turns out well.

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  • ______________
    7 years ago

    People like her are immature and should never engage in a relationship. She wasted 11/12 years of your life and has now broken up with you to fuck others.

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  • Cookiecutter
    7 years ago

    She needs to grow out and be her own person without. she's moving somewhere new and a new job its time for a fresh start. It hurts but its whats right.

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  • gyarikkuhou
    7 years ago

    Sadly she wants to fuck with other ppl.Forget about her and fuck you some ppl too.

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