Girlfriend needy, or am i crazy?

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All right, both my girlfriend and I are in college, and we've been together for over a year now. She wants to hang out multiple times a day, where as I don't, and she wants to text one another much throughout the day, where as I'd rather not. We hung out a lot and texted a lot in the beginning of our relationship, but I figured that after a year, she wouldn't be so "needy." Not sure if thats the best word to describe it. We've had talks about it, and she tries to give more space, but she always wonders why I've changed, and I try to just justify it by explaing that we are in different stages of the relationship where we don't need to be together all the time or communicating, but she doesn't seem to get it. Is she needy, or am I crazy?

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  • amazinggedge19
    14 years ago

    She's needy. I was the same way with my boyfriend until I finally found more friends which made it easier to be away and just hang out eith them when my boyfriend wanted space.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I don't think she thinks it's a bad thing to enjoy sending time with you or talking with you.

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  • funnycommercials123
    11 years ago

    I wish I had a girlfriend like yours, because I'm the same way! LOL

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  • ginger49ful
    11 years ago

    Hmm you're the one whose feelings have changed but she's "needy?" Maybe you should reevaluate why you don't care for her as much anymore?

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  • elliegirl
    14 years ago

    That's how me and my bf were and I didn't realize I was doing it even when he hinted that he wanted more time to himself. Try telling her she should hang out with her friends more or mak her want time to herself too. But ya it's normal

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    It's normal for a woman to want that attention. And she has every reason to be upset if you all of a sudden after a year don't want to text a lot or hang out a lot. If I were her I'd dump you. Because if u don't like being around ur woman or hearing from her that much then you should have told her that in the beginning. People changing their habits in relationships usually means they are cheating. She obviously needs to find a guy worth her time that wants to spend all that time with her. And u need to find a woman more independant that prefers her friends over her man.

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    • Judas_misunderstood
      13 years ago

      Wow, what a dumb diatribe. It is certain you are wrong.

      Sane, mature relationships go through stages. Infatuation is that intense, 24/7 thing that this chap has clearly moved past. Quite normal. She hasn't, and apparently it's something they've discussed, hence his question as to whether or not his feelings are normal. As others have indicated, they are. And as others have also indicated, she needs some other friends, hobbies or something else.

      All of it is quite perfectly normal. I wonder what's happened to make you jump to the cheating conclusion.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      You have some very rigid ideas about what's normal, but I suppose we shd expect that from your name?

      According to you, people can't change once they're in a relationship and if they do, they must be cheating? That's such a silly generalisation.

      I wouldn't want anyone, man or woman, to want to spend all that time with me, a relationship shouldn't blot out the rest of the world you know.

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    • Drowz0r
      11 years ago

      I'd love to meet the bitch that fucked you up.

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  • normaliscrazy
    13 years ago

    what shes doing just shows you how much she likes you, maybe you should give her more attention or tell her gently, how you feel. because someone like that doesnt really deserve you tbh, she wants someone to give her attention and affection.

    i agree alot with @: Eva_Braun88 .

    are you cheating? i dont know you, or your girlfriend but it seems like your cheating...

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  • girl.nxt.dr_1985
    14 years ago

    It's normal but just let her know lightly because she may be insecure.

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  • dietx
    14 years ago

    If to

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