Girl wants me to go to her school

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I'm a guy.

we've been friends for a few years,

Im pretty much her go to guy friend for situations - aka i'm deeply embedded in the friendzone.

I've helped her through relationships, stop suicide, get out of bad situations, not to mention talk hours upon hours on end with her - even when she has a boyfriend(s).

I was actually thinking of doing a similar major as her (not because she's doing it, but because it interests me) and her school would be the best option.

She also offered and really wanted me to come - said we could take classes together and stuff like that.

Initially, I really wasn't considering it - but I guess I'm just wondering is there any way to salvage this - make it more than a friendship? or am I just eternally trapped as her girlfriend that isn't a girl?

I dont know how to say it without coming off in an unwanted way. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings. I have feelings for her, and if I went there I wouldn't just want to be 'best buddies' or 'just a friend'. I'm not sure if going to her school really is the issue - I guess its more is there ever a chance of something happening between us.

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Based on 27 votes (17 yes)
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Comments ( 11 )
  • dom180
    9 years ago

    My gut reaction is that going to a different school could be a good way to allow your attachment to her to unwind. It is a good thing to accept that the people you like don't always like you, and being geographically separated from her could help you move on. This is a good opportunity to move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      yea. I figured so.

      thanks bro

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        yeah, dont go messing with your education just for a girl that has you in the zone. i might end up hating yourself, and her for it

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  • georgewoods
    9 years ago

    She wants you to smell her tits

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    • KingSwiss
      9 years ago

      great success ;D

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  • mixwell
    9 years ago

    She's getting all the benefits of a relationship by having you comfort and care but without having to commit. Once she finds a bf she probably will put you on the back burner until she breaks up with him and needs you to cry on..

    Find someone else, don't accept scraps from this girl. She knows you like her and will do things for her so try maybe to not be soo invested, she most likely wants you to take that clasd because she doesnt want to be alone at that school.

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    • KingSwiss
      9 years ago

      I doubt she knows I like her,

      but I agree with you. you make a great point.

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  • Canttel!
    9 years ago

    Uuugh!! Why do boys ALWAYS want to be OUT of the friend zone?!?! Jesus!!! That shits realy annoying! But, she IS a good friend so.... U too should b 2gether :)

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    • KingSwiss
      9 years ago

      Lol. to be honest, I've liked her since the day I met her.

      And Im tired of her being in terrible relationships.

      not to mention she has a lot of health issues and partying/ being depressed / going from party boy to party boy at least to me, isn't healthy and I care about her

      I mean its her choice too. and Id rather not impose myself in unwanted territory haha

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  • crum
    9 years ago

    It can go either way and have u try telling her ur feelings

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Why are you asking us? After a "few years" you should know this girl pretty well and have some idea of what is up, don't you think?
    For what it's worth (free advice and all that) I'd say she is using you and you're never going to get anything more than a pity screw out of this girl. If you want a real relationship, I'd cut this girl loose and go find one you can be her equal, not her "go to" guy.

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