Girl says she's "confused," but should i keep trying for her?

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I know it's normal to feel bad when one doesn't get the girl he wants, but just because I feel bad doesn't mean I should quit. Anyway, I'm a freshman in college, and, for a little over a month, I've been in love with a girl I met. I could honestly classify her as the most beautiful girl in the world at this point, because that's the way I feel.

She knows I love her because I've told her numerous times and shown her with my actions. She likes me as a friend, and she's told me as much. She said she tried to feel romantic feelings for me, but it just makes her feel "confused." But, when I asked her if I'll ever have a chance with her again, and she says she can't answer that question because she doesn't know the answer.

I love her with all my heart, but should I hold out hope for the "confused" girl or should I quit?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Agreed with BlueJeansWhiteShirt.

    The only confusion she is feeling at this point is confusion as to how to keep you as a friend but not stomp all over your heart by flat out telling you that she is not interested.

    She doesn't want you and if she did, she would have told you. If she ever does, she will tell you, but at this point, I would recommend you move on.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    As a girl, telling a man you're confused means that you aren't interested at all. The reason why she hasn't told you straight up is because she is your friend. I have been there before, it is so very hard to tell someone you love as a friend that there will be no chance of any romantic love between you two. At the end of the day, you still want to protect your friends feelings.
    I would just give up hope for her. If she does ever develop romantic feelings for you, she will tell you! So the more you keep talking to her about it and telling her you love her, you will push her away completely.
    We all fall in love with someone at least once in our lives who can't return those feelings for us. It's a fact of life and it hurts a lot. But one day you'll meet someone who you will fall in love with again except they will love you as much back.

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    • Ldizzy1234
      11 years ago

      Agreed! I usually say the exact same thing... when I really don't feel the same. :/

      I wouldn't push or pressure her, she'll just become more distant & 'confused'.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      as a guy i find this pretty annoying though, I understand that you don't want to hurt your friend but like the initial question suggests simply saying that you are confused is so confusing that it's not really solving the situation at all because it makes the guy feel that there is still a possibility that it could work out. At that point I think that any guy would think that if he would stick around and show enough affection something could still happen.

      This would mean that the guy would put more effort into what you see as just a friendship than he would normally do, which makes it kind of fake. Isn't that even worse for both parties?

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  • nightmare28
    11 years ago

    You're in a friendzone buddy, she just letting you down easy while trying to keep you as a gay friend. Girls are not stupid like some of them pretend to be, she knows very well if there is a chance or no.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Oh god this is painful to read. Dude you are doing the EXACT opposite of what you should do. You are right in the fucking friend zone and you only have yourself to blame.

    I'm thinking you've done too much damage already, just fucking leave it. I know it's tough but you're going to look like a pathetic loser if you're begging her to go out with you. It's desperate. Not a good look. Honestly, why give her the time of day if she can't make her fucking mind up anyway? Go after a girl that wants you 100%.

    But seriously, you come across as quite wet in your post, I recommend hitting the gym and start acting like a real man and not some pussy that waits around on girls that don't care about them! Live your life for you, not for somebody else!

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    I think you're either in the friendzone or you're being strung along.

    You mentioned you show you love her, which I'm guessing means you're doing things for her. If that's the case, you MIGHT be being used.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    If you continue to push she's just pull away.

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  • [email protected]
    11 years ago

    Go to your local animal shelter instead and adopt a pet. FOR GOOD PUSSY FUCK A CAT!!!!

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Yaaa you should back off a bit

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