Girl regrets

I'm 18 and I have several regrets of times when I neglected girls when I shouldn't have.

A year ago I dumped the girl who I lost my virginity to (and vise-versa) because one day I just felt like I didn't like her anymore after being together for several months. I was okay with it up until a couple months ago when I started talking to her again and I started liking her again, but we're in 2 different states and she's moved on. I now regret breaking up with her.

Recently I went out with a girl(A), then she dumped me, then I went out with her best friend(B), dumped her and later got back with the the first girl(A). I thought we both loved eachother enough that I didn't have to worry about her dumping me again, and so I started trying to convince her to have sex, and I kept doing it because she said she was "having trouble resisting" even though she was "absinent". Anyways, she dumped me and did not allow a rebuttle. I now know that I would have been perfectly happy waiting for years with her. Way too late now though.

Oh, and now I REALLY want to go back out with her best friend(B) again, because I know who she really is now and I'm not still in love with someone else, but... she "doesn't want to get hurt again" and yeah... I regret hurting her.

There's a couple more stories but I think I've made my point. Normal? Ideas?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • kanklesss

    grow up and be a real man
    know what you want and be confident about it

    girls love that

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  • SharpieSmile

    How old are you? Cause you sound like a 12 year old with no balls

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  • ScooterNyne

    Sounds like you're playing a game lol.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    Yes plenty of jerks break up just because they get bored. That was your loss as you did not try to make it work. She is probably not going to take you back and she really shouldn't. It is not like you take a relationship seriously if you would leave over any old whim. Get over it and move on. If you are going to leave it should be something significant like cheating, or something like that. These kind of things are a serious matter. You fucked yourself over so deal with it. Yes this type of thing is very normal and common. No one cares about relationships. They just want to fuck around till they get bored and fuck someone else.

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  • chp316

    LIVE AND LEARN!

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  • chome

    Wow people in the comments are assholes..Hey man I respect what you are saying and I agree that sometimes you realize that breaking up with a girl was the worst decision ever. Try to remedy it or move on though it's not good to dwell in the past. Oh and you haven't done anything wrong, you're just young and having fun :). OH! but recognize it as fun...I'd wait to look for actual love.

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  • violentsonata

    It's normal to have past relationships that ended badly and still think about them. If the girls are in your life, then keep them there but if they aren't and you're forever trying to get them back into your life, I suggest moving on and if you are meant to be together again, you'll cross paths later. In the mean time, open your heart to women elsewhere that aren't BFF's or who don't even know each other, and see where that leads you. You're lucky you fall so easily.

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  • violentsonata

    Well, it's a legit reason to dump a girl because you don't like her anymore, regardless of whether or not you lost your virginity to her. It would have been stupid to stay with her simply because you felt obligated to... she became a better person because of that experience and whatever happened between then and now, that's how people grow. If that didn't all happen, you probably wouldn't like her now, she'd be the same plain Jane she was when you lost feeling for her.

    As for the other two girls, in normal situations I'd say you can't help who you like, and the girl A dumped your ass so you have the right to date whoever you want as long as it's mutual, but my mind kinda changed after I read that she told you she was abstinent, but you kept pushing her to have sex anyway. I'd dump you too. That's a personal decision. I've had lots of casual sex for the past few years, then decided after some soul searching that I was going to abstain until I really cared for someone, which I thought wasn't going to happen any time soon. I was abstinent for about a year, and I've been seeing this guy who I care for very much, and in the beginning I told him that I wasn't down for casual sex and had abstained for as long as I have... he respected it for the most part, and we had severe makeout/other sessions when I really wanted to have sex with him and he knew it, but he knew that we weren't going to until I was ready.

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  • urnotnurml

    bridges burned. grow some balls and move on.

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  • mtnw

    you've been acting fickle. that's a trait of immaturity and being insincere. not many people will put up with that for your age. maybe you should just learn from what happened and move on.

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  • in one word you are a jerk.... have a nice day.

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