Girl of my dreams is my best friend

Her name is Lisa, I met her in 8th grade. I was a new student and she was the only person who decided to talk to me. I was a real f*cking geek to say the least, but she didn't seem to care. She always made sure her friends were nice to me. Right off the bat I thought she was the most beautiful girl in the school. But I was going through some drama in my life at the time (that I don't want to go in to) and was severely depressed. So I talked to her about it. I found out that she was going through almost the same things (only a little worse). And she seemed as happy as can be. Over time she helped me get through it.

When we went to HS I got my own friends and we kind of went out seperate ways. Although we hung out with different people, we always found time for each other. I still thought she was the most beautiful girl in school, but I never thought about her in a sexual kind of way.

So it'd been about two years since I first met her. In that time, we helped each other out whenever we felt down. We even joked about how we would be the perfect couple if we were together. But we took it upon ourselves not to get involved with each other for fear of it not working out and thus ruining our friendship.

Everything was fine until one night. I had a dream about her. Don't worry, it's nothing sexual. We were about 8 years older and we were just...married. I was just sitting on a chair with her in my lap and I held her. Our hands locked, rings right next to each other, with her resting against me. Then I told her, "I love you so much." with her reply being, "I love you too."

I couldn't quite understand what brought it on, I NEVER thought about her in any kind of way other than as my friend. But for the next couple of weeks I had more dreams about her. (Still nothing sexual) Including coming in to the hospital to see her and get our newborn daughter. But then I suddenly started feeling something toward her. I would get a little annoyed every time her boyfriend came around. I still had a girlfriend, but I thought about Lisa the entire time. So I just told my gf, "I'm sorry, I can't be with you anymore. I'm hung up another girl and can't stop thinking about her. It'd be so disrespectful of me to keep going out with you while I think about her. I still love you, but....I can't explain how I feel. I hope you understand." She understood completely and help no grudges. We're still friends today. All my friends told me to just forget about it. I'm a teenager, you'll get over it.

Well it's been nine months since then, and not a day goes by where I don't think about her, write "I Love Lisa" on the mirror of my bathroom after a shower, or feel real weird every time I'm around her. I still feel the same way, so I gotta ask: Is it normal for me to suddenly fall for her and keep this feeling even though many months have passed? She's single now, but I can't gather the courage to ask her out. I really need advice if anybody has something useful to offer.

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  • abdul009

    Dude just MAN UP and ask her out.if u Neva try u will neva know.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    My wife is my best friend.

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  • Ryan556

    XD I remember my hs sweet heart her name was Jessica or somthin and I loved her head over heels I just gutted up and told her I loved her she ran my ass over not in that way like she was happy she ran my to the ground and squesed the life out of me

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  • coolstorybro(

    I think you should tell her how you feel before she gets away. If you really love her, I bet she loves you too!

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  • YBNormal

    I really hope that, in the end, you get what you want. I think she'll find herself lucky to be loved so much by a best friend. I hope that she finds she feels the same way inside that you do. This was a very beautiful story. I'm still waiting for the happy ending.

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  • ~L~

    Girls are always doing their little mind games to get you to do what they want.

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  • bones

    Well I'm glad to hear that, although I think we were all hoping for a movie like ending XD still it's good and yes you can try later, now that she will hopefully get used to you loving her, she may come around. Best of luck!

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  • HumbleBovine

    Update: I went for it everybody. She thought it was really brave of me to admit it, and thinks that we do have something special that we can't explain. But......she doesn't want to ruin it. So, we're not going for it. We also have alot of things going on in our lives, so we wouldn't really be able to focus on dating. She promises nothing will change between us, cause she doesn't want to lose a friend like me. So it ended on a pretty good note. I think I'll try and ask her out when somethings have cleared up in our lives. But thanks for all the support people. Bye!

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  • bones

    Do it and tell us how it goes! Pratice saying what you want to say to her!

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  • LiamHale

    Go for it man. You'll hate yourself if you let her get away.

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  • chucho

    ooo! i am in the same situation! PM me and help me out to:) pretty please, everthing happens for a reason, just tell her how you feel :D i yold kolby how i feel and he said he feels the same way, but now he is saying "i wouldnt want to hurt you blah blah blah.." anyways.. he is "the player" but hes my best friend and always will be.. but the truth is im deeply in love with him.. (PM me)

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  • katiebuglahv

    Go for it dude- otherwise you'll always be there wondering what could have been.

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  • Shiloh128964

    To dream of marriage symbolizes a commitment of your self to another. It can also represent the inner marriage of formerly severed aspects of your self.
    But alot of people fall in love and some do end up marrying their best friends of the opposite sex.
    Personally, I might be in love with my guy-friend. It's normal, but do ask her out.
    By now you may know her very well, what she likes and doesn't like and so on.
    Good luck.

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  • bones

    If this is true than DO IT MAN! Tell her you love her, that you want to be close by her side, as more than just a friend. With any luck at all she feels the same way. Why do you think she's single, conveniently at the same time you are? Go for it. Man up. Ask her out.

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    • HumbleBovine

      You guys are right. I just need wait for her to get back home from Washington (I'm in California) and I'mma go for it. Wish me luck. I've been too afraid of her saying "no", but I never considered her saying "yes". I need to know, and damn the consequences!

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