Girl breaks up w/ me, comes back, then sets single status on facebook

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I've been w/ my GF for 3+ years and we recently broke up.. took it hard.. but a week after, she came back, asking if we could go for another chance, and that she didnt really wana break up w/ me she just got burnt out..

We're back together and things, though sensitive, are much better now...

It's been 2 weeks now, everything was nice she changed her status to SINGLE recently.

To give a little backgrounder, while broken up, She hid her facebook relationship status, and i thought she set hers to SINGLE, so i set mine to SINGLE. - she knows this and this wasnt the ISSUE.

So anyway, I got hurt bad, and confused..

When confronted, she said since her FB Status shows "IN A RELATIONSHIP" only but no longer tagged w/ my profile, she decided to set hers to SINGLE - not as retaliation to me setting mine to single.. Nevertheless, it sucks that she would set her stat to single when we're back together already.

She said she didnt mean anything by it, and that her RELATIONSHIP status is hidden from anyone anyway since our break up. It wasnt a big deal to her she just thought she'd set it to that, and also that it really didnt matter to her whether it's set to single or in a relationship..

NOW, I FEEL TERRIBLE about this.... where I would be proud to announce to the world and my friends that we're back together, she seemed to not care.. Ok she's not a big FB user (just the apps and games but not so in profile updates etc) but come on, she's on it almost daily, and almost all our friends are in our network..

I felt she didnt want people to know or didnt bother to ask me to re-instate our status or what nots.. it's confusing coz i thought she wanted us back together but she couldnt care to set her FB profile right .. she spent the effort to update it anyway, why update it NEGATIVELY?

Where other couples would be proud to delcare to the world their status w/ someone, she chosed to hide it and not care about it..

w/c makes me feel unwanted, or that she's ashamed of me or something..

Im now having 2nd thoughts on how committed she is to me this time around... :(

IS IT NORMAL that she would set hers to SINGLE rather than ask me to reinstate things - specially coz we're back together?

IS IT NORMAL that im feeling this way? or AM I OVER REACTING?

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beneficialpest

13 years ago

It sounds to me like she's trying to keep her options open because she is unsure if she really wants to be with you. But it sounds like she is also afraid to be alone and so you are Mr. In The Meantime. I don't think your overreacting at all. I think her behavior should be a red flag to you. I agree with you, if you really adore someone you are proud to announce to the world your commitment. I also think it's very possible she was or is interested in someone who she is friends with on Facebook - that's why the issue with relationship status.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  13 years ago
  
  thanks for your input and i can see how it may be valid for some cases, but with my GF it's different. just the fact that she has not made her Relationship status public, since our breakup.. and she set it to single and not bother to make it public either.. makes this analysis less likely ... so i think.
  
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bittersweet21

12 years ago

Facebook is for people with no lives. Who the fuck cares what your "status" is. How about you get your face off the stupid computer and stop whining about your girlfriend's status. You already know your in a relationship...so pay attention to your life...not the computer.

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redwhite

13 years ago

Dump her save the heart pain & disappear. If she asks why tell her you found somebody with out a Facebook account

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k34nu

13 years ago

Tell her to stop being immature. And you stop.

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Don't trust people who take the time to change status on facebook in my opinion..

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aussiewolf

13 years ago

before you do anything rash you need to realise that communication is the most important thing in a relationship and it sounds to me that both of you need to work on that. it is just facebook but if it really means that much to you then she should respect that. maybe she just wants to see how it goes before she announces to the world that you are back together and if you both keep acting silly about it then chances are you wont be together for much longer. forget about the facebook thing and focus on communicating with each other face to face and then if she is still happy, she will probably change her status to in a relationship. if you make a fuss like this with everything then you wont be able to sustain many relationships.

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  13 years ago
  
  u strike a good point.. and i have to admit im getting paranoid and insecure .. and over sensitive w/ everything.. yeah i need to get my bearings back.. tnx much for your inputs...
  
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Sabby

12 years ago

Same with me except I had mine in a relationship and it send a confirmation message to him but he didnt accept it?

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randomjelly

13 years ago

Stop the facebook games.

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SuperLouis

13 years ago

Its just facebook!!! Dont let this bug you, focus on her and good luck ;)

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Jen118584

13 years ago

Get off Facebook. Problem solved.

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

This happened to me

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Easedrop.

13 years ago

I think your overreacting a bit. Give her a break. Good luck

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