Gf's love for her mother is complicationg our relation.

I have been dating this girl for almost two weeks now whose parents are separated. She lives with her mother who she loves unconditionally. And because of her father she never trusts any guy. However she fell in love with me almost six months back. And when i confessed my feelings to her that is tow weeks back, she reciprocated happily. And all was well and then we started dating two weeks back. For for first date, she didn't tell her mother because she was afraid as to how her mother will respond for her mother was extremely emotional and dramatic. Therefore she had to lie. Though she was extremely happy throughout the date, the problem started once she reached home. She started feeling bad and guilty for lying to her mother. She started assuming that she's cheating her the exact same way her father cheated her mother. And now she doesn't know what to do and so do I. She loves me and doesn't want to end things, but at the same time she says can't do anything beyond telling me that she likes me. She won't go out with me, she won't hold my hands. She wants to be friends with me like we used to be. But I don't think we can go back being friends. Its impossible now. She's killing me and herself with unwanted guilty feelings. And when i asked her to tell her mother about us, she wouldn't do that also. The worst is she loves me and she doesn't want to go beyond that. And now we decided to being friends, but this whole going back to being friends thing is definitely not working as it is working for her. This situation is basically killing me. What the hell am I supposed to do?!

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  • handsignals

    BRAZZERS

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  • green_boogers

    I suspect there is something about her relationship with her mother that she is not telling you. Tell her to introduce you to her mother for things to continue. Maybe it will all work out.

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  • RoseIsabella

    In my humble opinion this chick sounds like more trouble than she's worth. I bet your girl's got more baggage than the airport.

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  • Crusades

    The thing with her mother is just an excuse to put you in the friendzone. Bitches be slick!

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  • twitch44

    This girl clearly isn't ready to be in a relationship, and she's smart for making it clear to you. In her own time, she will find a way to have a relationship, but in the meantime, you should respect her wishes and give her the time she needs. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, then move on.

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  • davesumba

    Fuck girls with trust issues caused by a divorce. Been there, done that, never again. GTFO while you can, trust me bub, before it's too late.

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  • Tenderlovin

    It really doesn't sound like there is anything you can do. She's always going to care more about her mother and she doesn't want to hurt her mother by getting involved with you. You just have to move on.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    I'm honestly suspicious about this mother excuse. You should probably get to know the mother first to see how she might react to you, though. Also, it seems weird that your girlfriend loves you but won't do anything that shows affection.

    Just be cautious for now.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    why dont yall show up when the mother and daughter are both home and get er all out in the open. if it comes off then great if not then move on, yall dont need that bullshit anyway

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