Getting through college...

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So im about to go off to college for the first time and my boyfriend is also. We have been dating for almost 3years now and I can't stand to be away from him. The only thing is the colleges we are going to are 3 hours apart.. That may not seem like a long way away but ive always been so much closer I him. We talked about texting, calling skype and etc with each other to keep in touch but it still won't be the same as having him here though. I'm getting sad just having to think about it right now..

But my question is- is being sad normal when being apart from the one you love?

Has anyone else had the experience of being separated by different colleges, or similar situation?

Comment your stories please! How did it work out and are you still together? Any advice on coping with the long distance? Or how to keep our relationship as strong as it is when were together?

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  • Wyomingite
    10 years ago

    My friend is in a similar situation except that her boyfriend lives SIX hours away from us. They were dating for a year before they had to go long-distance (for college, just like you and your guy), and they have been successfully together, long-distance, for two years.
    Yes, my friend gets very sad when she hasn't seen him in person in a couple of weeks, and yes, sometimes she worries that he will cheat (and the same goes for him!), but so far they are still loyal and, overall, happy.
    I think the thing to remember is that relationships are work even when you see the other person every day. It may be easier or harder as a long-distance couple, and the odds are against you, but nothing is impossible.
    I wish you and your boyfriend luck!

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  • DannyKanes
    10 years ago

    So the IIN rules no longer apply?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I know a lot of people who have broken up with their long term partners during their first year of university/college/whatever. It's not just the distance, it's the fact that both of you will meet new people and have new experiences, and that will change you. What you want from a relationship will change. Even if the relationship you are in is perfect for you now it might not be perfect once you change.

    Some people do stay together though, if you're both determined to and you know what you want. I'm not saying to expect the worst :)

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    • Diver2
      10 years ago

      100 per cent correct.

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    When I went to college my boyfriend stayed in our hometown. At the time I was just so excited to be going that I didn't realize how far apart we would be (about 9 hours). He was really sad and all but I was experiencing new things and didn't suffer as much as you say you are. We were together for 3 years like that, seeing each other every 2 weeks. It can work, as long as both of you have the intention of actually staying together. You have to work on it and keep things in perspective. It may take a lot of effort and patience but it's possible. Good luck!

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    • Lilbit2much
      10 years ago

      Thanks! :3

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  • mlbryan44
    10 years ago

    He will hook up with other girls at his school for sure.

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  • OhYeah916
    10 years ago

    Yeah it's fine, I mean I'm in UK for just over half of the year and my girlfriend lives in Gibraltar, where my family lives. I probably see her six times a year, but when I do it's for quite a long period of time, and we really miss each other when we're apart. But we skype and FB quite a lot, and always have really good times when I go back there. Hope this helped. :)

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