Fun outside marriage

It is clear that the majority of these comments are from women. Boy can you feel the anger!

It is perfectly normal to fantasize and dream about sex outside your relationship. However, as you can tell from the beating you have been taking, sex outside your relationship comes with consequences. What most people do not acknowledge about infidelity is that it is not the sex that damages the relationship. It is the dishonesty.

Sex is a physical act that can be performed with any other human being. Love is a bond that can be broken with words as well as actions.

I am also in a relationship where I am very unsatisfied sexually. I masturbate constantly because I do not want to cheat. Recently we had a conversation that helped though. It is possible to tell your wife how you feel. It may not be easy, but it is the right thing to do.

You should talk to your wife and tell her you are unsatisfied sexually. Maybe she is too. Tell her you want to spice things up. How do you know that she doesn't want the same thing? Maybe she would be willing to do something erotic or risqué.

You won't know until you talk about it.

Don't go have sex with someone else though. It will just screw everything up.

I'm not sure why we put so much value on sex. It is just a physical act. From a male perspective it is a very important act, but an act nonetheless.

You realize what is at stake here: a lifelong bond vs. a silly fling.

If you do this, you will ruin your marriage. Say goodbye, throw in the key and move out then. You will surely be alone after your sexual satisfaction with women who are crazy enough to even get with you.

Do you still have some idea in your mind that you can "get" with women? How old are you? What is wrong with you???!!!!!STUPID

So this is a normal temptation to have, but in time..and it may take a lot of time for some people, but it just causes pain. Pain with maybe your wife if she ever found out, or the other party. But the deepest pain will be with yourself. And if you commit this act, then you will have to live with this pain for the rest of your life. Just remember that. And if you decide to tell her what you've done, then remember now it's not only you in that pain, you've just caused a domino effect of hurt! Just pondering on the thought is going too far. Don't do it..it's a disaster waiting to happen!

I have an idea you dirtbag. How about you ask your wife if it's normal? I'm sure she'll be pleased to answer you, and hopefully throw your sorry self out the window.

You sick fuck. You got married for a reason. And that ring should bind you and your wife together. For fucks sake, if your excuse for cheating is sex, you might as well get a divorce now and go find someone who CAN satisfy you. But honestly, are you willing to risk your entire marriage 'cause you can't get off? If your answer is yes. Go kill yourself. You miserable worm of a man.

50 bucks says you just suck in bed so bad that you don't even give yourself any pleasure from it.

Been there so yah I think it's normal, is it right? Maybe not, but I won't get into that here. Especially in your case, having never been with another woman, I'm not surprised at all. I mean dude you should have sowed a few wild oats before getting hitched, so you'd have a little variety under your belt, which could either make you appreciate your wife a little more or at least give you something to fantasize to.

You can spend a lot of time regretting not having sexual forfilment. The fact is if you can't talk to your wife you have a problem. If you talk to your wife & nothing changes or things get worse.

So what to do, I choose to pay to play. I don't want any emotional feeling and don't have the time or the inclination to chase.

I want sex in the manner that I feel like when I feel like it, simple. For a fee I get to forfill all my fantasise without embarrassment or guilt or shame. My wife only wants straight sex missionary position.

I don't no your situation but messing with married women can only end your marriage. Pay to play is the best way if your going out side your marriage.

if your wife is not willing go ahead.

If you're asking for endorsement concerning infidelity, you migjt want to skip my comment. You betray someone who had put their trust into you, and you are willing to break that for a dubious 30 seconds?

Have you considered an "open marriage"? You should've agreed to that if you couldn't imagine happily banging your wife for "the rest of your life". This is why I'm not getting married. Shit like this gives marriage a "bad name".

The honeymoon is over. Do you think that your ancestors stayed or left based on their sexual satisfaction? The world wS built by people who didn't get any last night. Remember for better or for worse? Uou do, right? Well you made s divine promise. Now go and break it just to bust a happier nut? Get with the program, my friend!!

you cheating b@stard!

if your marriage is not satisfying you then it would be wrong to have an affair.end your relationship before deciding to be with another woman. being discreet does not make it ok. you took a vow damnit and you should respect your wife enough to keep the thoughts in the back of your head of change your living situation.

cheers!

dont cheat.

Please talk to your wife, maybe not as bluntly as you put it here, but talk to her. You need to either fix your marriage or get out and move on. People get bored but there are so many ways to spice things back up! Try a relationship counselor instead of a website for tips and tricks. These people aren't professionals by any stretch. If you don't love your wife anymore do her a favor and get out of the relationship, she can probably do better. And I agree that finding a MARRIED woman to cheat with is a terrible idea! Ruin your own relationship. As obvious as it may seem, movie scenarios are hardly ever what happens in life and your ideas seem very movie-esque. Seek help.

~Peace~

Not having sexual relationships prior to your marriage isn't as big an issue as you think. Its over rated by a sex-obsessed society & most people go through that just to get to the point you are at.

Best option: work at being happy in your marriage sexually (etc.). Talk openly with you partner - be understanding and believe in the relationship. This will make your partner happier. She may already be picking up on your restlessness and so you are contributing to your own dissatisfaction. Get counseling if need be.

Worse option: Don't look to married women as partners. You are just contributing to someone else's failing marriage. And yours will fail faster when hubby shows up at your home to settle the score.

Least worse: If you have to, instead of faking a relationship with someone for sex, hire a professional sex worker. This won't be good for your marriage. But at least you won't be jerking around anyone else besides your wife. After all, all you want is sex.

I'm wondering..Is that ok?
I mean, you can be with someone you love. but why not be with a stranger to satisfy you, sexually, too?

... I think I know who this is, and if it is, I shouldn't be answering. Weird. hahaa Oh well.
alright, Uh no you shouldn't do it. (I'm being un-biased, YES!) Try new things, talk about it. Seriously, try to spice things up. And if you can't, and you really think there is nothing wrong with sex with someone else, talk about that. If you can't, then deep down you know it's wrong, and shouldn't do it.

it's normal but you'll regret it. I think about cheating on my wife. But I can't do it, because it would f**k everything up. And I have a good life and beautiful family.

It's all in the chase!!!!!

It pisses me off that when someone's sex life isn't satisfying they first think let's find someone else. hmm ... Isn't marriage supposed to be about COMMUNICATION????!!!! Fucking talk to your wife to spice things up. For God's sake!!!

Well even though I feel that if you feel the need to cheat you shouldn't be in that relationship.... my advice is to check out craigslist. Google craiglist and you city. They have a tonne of people looking for the same thing.

Very demanding. But people are right you know.. You should get divorced first & then, you can have FUN. Don't do it while you're married with someone who committed herself for you & for the rest of your lives. Frankly, I think it's sick if you married her only because of lust. xp

sex is a part not the whole...

Try new things. Try to figure out more about her, then you'll fall in love with her more if you're not already, then you'll want to do it because you love her, and trust me, it's better when you do it out of love instead out of lust and demand. Much better. And ya you probably do suck in bed, no offense, so try some new techniques. The swirly aughtta do it.

Yep well everyone else is just about right on this deal. If your willing to cheat on your spouse openly without even getting tempted then your a divorce waiting to happen. Think about the person your with and how much they care about you. Do you care about their feelings in the least? Why did you get married in the first place?

So youve only been with one woman how do you know its not your fault there is no sexual satisfaction I bet maybe it is