From highs to lows, relationships don't feel worth it to me

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There have been three girls that I truly liked and had relationships with. The first one was my first girlfriend and we were friends for one year and dated for 3 & 1/2. The second was a girl I met my senior year of college. And now recently there was a woman I had stayed in contact with for years and then I spent 2 weeks living with her. They've all ended in heartbreak.

My first girlfriend told me she wasn't going to date anyone after we broke up and that she was hoping we'd get back together if I found God. In reality, she started hooking up with guys on tinder and lied to me about it. The girl I dated my last year of college shared an open arrangement with me where we could see other people but then she started seeing my close friend without talking to me. She said she would end things but then she didn't and I left her. She asked for me back saying she didn't really want him so I accepted her but then she said she did still want to sleep with him and my feelings were a burden on here. So I left her again. Lastly, a woman five years older than me showed a lot of interest in me. I was reluctant but it was a bit confusing to me because she was so beautiful, smart, and had a lot of friends. Ultimately I think she just realized I wasn't all that and lost interest.

At one point all these girls were so into me. They'd talk about me like I was such a special person and we were both excited at just the sight of one another (especially my first girlfriend). It felt better than anything but right now I feel the weight of all these breakups on me. I feel so heartbroken. I feel like I don't ever want to try and be in a relationship again

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You sound like you are burned out on love, sex, dating and relationships. You're not alone! There are plenty of other men, and women who are burned out on this stuff as well. Don't blame yourself, but don't play the victim to yourself either.

    I'm actually in a place in my life that is not dissimilar from where you are. I can't tell you what to do, but if I were in your shoes I would try to focus on myself, and on self-discovery. I would, if I were in your shoes, seek to discover what it is about me that attracts these sort of people to my life, and or why am I continuously attracted to these sort of people.

    I can't force you to change your approach with women, but I will tell you that an ex is an ex for a reason. Once a cheater, always a cheater! If a relationship doesn't work out initially with a particular person it's no more likely to work out, just because ya'll have broken up, and suddenly feel lonely, or because she says she misses you. Always remember that actions speak louder than words, and people can promise you the moon when they can't even give you a streetlight.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      You're definitely right that I need to focus on myself. I find it quite lonely though. I sorta feel like I'm giving up

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Don't give up on yourself, you are not alone! I'm kinda in a similar situation. Whatever you do don't tell yourself that you aren't good company. Get to know yourself, and see that you are good company, then learn to love yourself.

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  • WhatTheAbsoluteFuck
    5 years ago

    Im in a relationship currently and I can sure say it isnt worth it. Just waiting for her to let me clap them cheeks

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  • raisinbran
    5 years ago

    Relationship drama is 99% petty bullshit.

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  • JD777
    5 years ago

    I feel your pain. I’ve been dating for a long time since my divorce and met many unsavory women. They seem great at first, then their true self starts showing, and not in a good way. I took a break from women a few years ago and it was great. Then I got back into it and have a gf I’ve been with a few years. I’ve decided if this doesn’t work out, I’m done with women. It’s just not worth the drama and pain. Take some time just for yourself, you’ll be glad you did.

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