Friends with benefits

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So, I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month and it was really casual. I had really intended it to be a one nighter but we ended up hanging out more. Recently he told me he liked me and I responded that he shouldn't get attached because I would be moving soon and was only looking for a fling. He got really upset but I don't know why. Is it normal for girls to want to be just friends with benefits and no strings attached?

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Based on 104 votes (78 yes)
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  • Deadly_Syn
    15 years ago

    Well,
    You COULD say your a heartless bitch with no feelings whatsoever...
    or you could say you just wanted to ****.

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  • laughing_gurl
    15 years ago

    you can't help how you feel, so if you don't want to get serious, then you should clear that up with him now, trust me. I've been there.

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  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    It should be normal. At least you had the guts to tell him, good for you!

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  • I_am_not_normal
    13 years ago

    LMAO! This is at 69 percent normal!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Norm although im sorta like the dude and hate the idea of just sex then exit unless he pre agreed to this.

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  • ryanthony
    13 years ago

    No offense,

    every girl I've ever met has been this (slutty) way.

    Norm.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    its normal

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  • blonde007
    14 years ago

    Totally normal

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  • Alaskaraven
    14 years ago

    Normal as hell.

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  • johnedwards
    14 years ago

    No its not normal but its almost every guys dream. What guy wouldnt want to bang some chick and then not have to listen to her talk or buy her dinner. Your awesome.

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    14 years ago

    The only thing I see wrong here is that you're not charging these fools for your time, get yourself some stupid mug that will wait on you hand and foot and bleed him dry of his cash while getting some nookie on the side from other guys.

    -Simple as that-

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  • Xanadu
    15 years ago

    People go through different stages in their lives and sometimes people develop different feelings for each other in relationships, (friendships or otherwise). So it's normal in the sense that what you're doing is fairly common and it's normal in the sense that you are in one "place" in your relationship and your partner is in another one, (emotionally speaking). That can be awkward; especially when sex is involved. Sex is an intimate thing and sometimes people give into their feelings and those feelings get hurt when that intimacy they feel is not shared by the person they've been with. I'd say that communication is key. If you're going to be "friends with benefits" you need to make sure you are both talking about "where you are" in the relationship A LOT. Otherwise, someone is bound to get hurt.

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  • sleeplesss
    15 years ago

    Too many people guilt themselves into being in relationships, what a waste of time. Go with your gut, and yes it's totally normal for both girls and guys to feel that way... doesn't mean you have to act on it, feelings can get hurt so it may be best just to let the person go completely.

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  • Artanis186
    15 years ago

    imo, yes. But I sometimes don't like it, depends on the girl and the situation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I don't think it's right, but hey what do I know? I'm just the stereotypical Christian who knows absolutely nothing about 'real life moral and casualties'....... talk with him, he obviously cares about you. Don't just leave him hanging there. And you see, this is why you don't just sleek with people. You end up hurting yourself and others. I'm just sayin.......

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