Friends w/ benefits with my best friend who was once my boyfriend?

If you still love each other why don't you get back together? Do you not feel romantically attracted to him anymore? If that's the case, you need to lay down the lines for touching. If you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell him.

But if, on the other hand, you don't love him romantically but are happy to pursue a FWB relationship only then you still need to make it clear that's all it is for both of you.

It's confusing as hell. I just want to say this is the worst idea after you break up with someone. Trust me, this happened for a total of five years, broke up, fwb, got back together, broke up, fwb, got back together and lets repeat that cycle ten more times. Right now it's fwbsnfnsfunmc

Hmmm. That sounds a lot like me. I have commitment issues so I broke up with my old boyfriend, yet whenever we tried to hang out we would always end up doing the naughty.

I don't think it's necessarily not normal, but I do think it is destructive behavior in the end.

Are you in another relationship right now? Are you looking for one? Having fun with this guy is only going to hold you back from finding something truly valuable.

I'm also wondering why you don't just get back together.
I don't see what's so confusing about it. If a couple people got along enough to start a relationship in the first place, most the time they should be able to remain their friendship after a breakup, unless one of them was horrible to the other, in which case it's understandable they would want nothing to do with that person.
I'm still good friends with all my ex-girlfriends, but I don't do anything sexual with them anymore.

Well if he got a girl friend how would that make you feel? If you get angry then maybe there still are those romantic feelings. Becoming a best friend or friend with benefits to someone you were in a relationship with is one of the hardest and most confusing things. You must remember that if you are friends with benefits, you will get attached to that person but you must remember that when he gets a girl friend you can't get mad. I absolutely hate friends with benefits because someone always gets hurt. Why don't you guys get back together? You clearly still love each other. Or are you not physically
attracted to him. Just sexually attracted. Either way you have to ask yourself a lot of questions before moving on. But as far as the friend thing you have to be okay with him getting a girlfriend and married someday, and maybe breaking things off with you. (Trust me. I have personal experience It really sucks. I was so sure I would be okay with him breaking it off with me, and him getting a girlfriend... But I wasn't. Make sure that you will be okay with it no matter what. I finally learned) Just try to figure stuff out. Ask him the same questions you ask yourself... like would I get mad if he got a girl. Would I be mad if he had sex with other people. Would I be ok if he got engaged, married. Had kids. If you wouldn't go for it. If he was okay then go for it. But if either answers are the same or different... Really think about the outcomes, and break it off before either side gets hurt.
Bijoux❤

So why did you "break up" in the first place, and what changed afterwards?

Ask yourself: How would you react if he found a new Gf or had sex with other people?

Then ask him the same.

If you both are entirely over one another, go for it! But if one of you wants more out of it this wont ever work.