Friend in the closet?

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So I have a suspicion my best friend could possibly be homosexual, which obviously isn't a problem.

I have a group of 5 close friends including me, we're all 19 years old and my one friend, who I shall call Dave, is, I'll admit it, the best looking out of all of us and also the fittest, yet he is the only virgin in our group and he has never had a girlfriend.

He'll tongue kiss girls at the club but he'll never go any further than that, on 2 occasions he's had a chance to date two different extremely attractive girls who come across as having nice personalities but he has turned them both down!

I've tried to casually throw it in a conversation that it is OK to be gay but I really am curios

What do you guys think?

I think he's gay 25
I think he's straight, there's more to it 23
I'm not sure . 23
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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    He'll come out when he's ready if he is in fact gay and if he feels the need to tell you.

    I often think about a dude I went to school with. We all thought he was gay but we never said anything nor did we care either way. Then a year or two after we graduated, a few ex friends of mine played a horribly cruel trick on him using an online site. After that he called a few of us up, myself included, and told us he was gay. He was such a good friend and one of the funniest people I ever knew. He disappeared after that and I miss him so much :(

    That's all I have to say about that.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Don't bring it up no matter how sure or unsure you are about his sexuality. When he's ready, he'll come out. And if he chooses not to, that's his choice as well. I've seen friendships ruined over one person trying to pull another out of the closet when they obviously weren't ready. Besides, he probably already suspects your suspicion.

    Leave it alone and cherish your friendship. Best of luck.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I think....that you shouldn't care! He's your best friend, for fucks sake.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Are you assuming I'd think of him differently?

      If you actually read this you would see that I said it's not a problem if he's gay.

      If he is gay he will remain my best friend, I am only curious

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        I'm not saying that his sexuality would be an issue for you, no. What I am saying is that, if he is indeed gay and he hasn't decided to tell anyone, then he is most likely coming to terms with and learning to accept his own sexuality. This is most likely an incredibly difficult and personal process, and honestly, if he doesn't want to confide in you, then it's really none of your business. You're poking around with an issue that is both private and about as irrelevant to your friendship as what color Martha Stuart's poop was this morning, and why...because you're curious? You don't get to know everything in life.

        If he is gay, he'll come out to you when and if he feels ready. As his best friend, all you can do is let him know that you love him, no matter what...that's your only job.

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  • dongwhan
    9 years ago

    maybe your friend is just jerking it all the time and doesnt want to chance catching something from one of the many skanks that run in these social circles youre all involved in. alot of people actually prefer masturbation over intercourse with sluts and hos but wont admit it unless theyre a stand up comedian, they all claim to masturbate.

    all I'm saying is just be cautious when shaking the guy's hand

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    go in there and S his D untill he comes out

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    9 years ago

    It doesn't matter if you're comfortable with his sexuality - or what you assume his sexuality is.

    What matters is that he might not be comfortable yet.

    I'd say just leave it alone. Sometimes the best way to show "support" is to just say nothing until they're ready to open up. And understand that they might never be ready, or that your assumptions might not even be correct.

    Just be his friend.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    9 years ago

    offer him a BJ while drunk and see what happens

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  • KennaJane
    9 years ago

    He will probably tell you anything if he feels it is necessary. Don't worry about it because he is probably just confused which is perfectly normal! It's important that you continue to act the same way around him if he does come out to make him feel the most comfortable.

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