Four years and i'm still not over her? iin?

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I've only had one girlfriend in my life, one. I was 17 and fresh out of high school. Our relationship was really short, about a month and a half, but damn did I love her. The mere thought of losing her was enough to make me sick. When she left me for another guy, I was devastated. Like, really devastated. I was hurt, sad, angry, and generally a wreck. For two years I thought of her every day. I wanted to be with her, hold her in my arms again and kiss her sweet soft lips. Every time someone told me about her and her relationships, I would be dejected. Facebook? Fucking forget it. One time I saw a picture of her kissing a guy who played guitar in my old band, I wanted to have a heart attack. Eventually I just forgot about her. Not completely, but enough to be happy and just move on. The next two years I was trying to move on. I had some crushes, but of course they were taken. Rotten luck. The last crush I had was a major one, I liked her for more than a year. But not only was she taken, she left for England to do her Masters degree so I won't be seeing her again for a long time. Despite the fact that I liked so many girls, my ex would always occupy my mind before bed. Today I looked at Facebook for the first time in a long time. The first thing that popped up was a picture of my ex kissing a guy she's apparently been dating for a couple of years. I'm pretty upset right now. I know that my ex doesn't give two shits about me, and I know that we were never meant to be. But is it normal that after four years I'm still not over her? I'm sorry for the long story.

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  • MeHTa
    11 years ago

    First love usually takes the longest to forget. Even when u will start dating you will still be thinking of her but i promise you, one day you will get over her and love someone else more.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    "One time I saw a picture of her kissing a guy who played guitar in my old band"

    You know what? I winced at that, and yeah, I think it's normal. She's not even my girlfriend and still I winced and know how you felt. Because I remember how it feels.

    It's awful. It really is. We all go through it. Women go through it too and they feel the same about us. Doesn't make you feel any better to know others have suffered, I know, but you're not on your own. I've been exactly where you are. I have sympathy for you while knowing I can do nothing much to help. It's shit. It's really, really shit. Everything has an end date, though. Although you feel bad now, you won't always. *Everything* has an end date. :)

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  • echopure
    11 years ago

    My first true crush came at grade 8 but never had the balls to talk to her in hs. Now last year I ran into my new crush whom I befriended and I told her weeks ago but got rejected. It'll take time to get over her, but I've learned to take the chance and I'm glad I did. So channel your anger, rage, whatever into something productive. I've taken up another sport and have booked courses to get my new degree for a better career. Im busy as shit. So use that energy to better yourself!

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