For those who got involved with a grown adult when you were a teenager

This is a poll for people who had a romantic or sexual experience with a grown adult (20+) when you were a young teenager (16 or under) that you considered to be consensual at the time.

In hindsight, was it as healthy and consensual as you thought, or can you see from your adult perspective that there was something off about it?

(i.e. you were too young to really know what you wanted, you were being manipulated, you were pressured into things, the power balance was way off, or you consider it weird or creepy that they were attracted to you)

Feel free to comment with your experiences, too.

My experiences were totally healthy and consensual 2
In hindsight it was unhealthy, unequal, coercive or creepy 0
I had a mixture of healthy and unhealthy experiences 1
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  • suzett

    I am an older woman who is being pursued my a male who is 12 years younger than me. no one ever thinks about this situation...

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    • TheRockinHellcat

      That's Hot!

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  • Anonnet

    This didn't happen to me, but it happened to a friend of mine. He got romantically (but not yet sexually) involved with a woman older than him while he was in highschool. Everyone was against it , including me. He took all of the criticism like a mature adult and wouldn't budge.

    Today, five years after I found out about it and about eight or so years since they got together, they're still together and now live together. He's around 24. I can't vote on the poll but, for him, it was healthy and consensual.

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    • Thank you for the response. So he was around 16 when it started? Do you know how many years apart they were, approximately?

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      • Anonnet

        I don't know the exact age, I've only seen a picture of her. I would estimate 10 years apart, at least.

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