For the lovers out there, tell me about true love

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I have a girlfriend for more than a year now, she's had my eye on me since middle school and I never noticed because of my naïveté. Well now getting older and more mature I chased after her, she's my first real relationship. We have gradually moved through our relationship and never rushing things. I care about her more and more and she's becoming important to my life. We engage in passionate sex, but also very lustfull sex too. She's made me realize the important things in life and I have a lot of empathy and understanding for her. She says I'm the most important thing to her, she's always thinking of me and telling her love for me. And I love our relationship because it's based on what's genuine and not a facade or something pictured in our heads. We enjoy each other's company all the time and our parents have a great relationship. But after a pregnancy scare, I was questioning my love for her, I began to think did I really want to build a life and or future with her? There's absolutely nothing wrong with her, and she does have a bright future ahead of her (college, law enforcement) but yet I'm not entirely sure if I'd be satisfied. Maybe it's from not exploring my options first, but I care greatly about her and she gives me a rush all the time and makes me feel alive, like how I should feel and down to earth. I love her and our relationship, and everything in between. Is it my obscured vision ? My naïveté ? My age? I understand I have lot to experience in life ahead of me but I don't want to let go of a good thing because of a doubt and then cry over it later because she was possibly the best thing for me. I feel sometimes like this is as good as it gets (in a good way) like so many people would kill to have someone by their side that cares about them and has a bright future . Any and every piece of advice from those who have experienced it would be greatly appreciated. Share experiences and tips on how I should go about this. I need help I'm just young and stupid I guess, but maybe I just found what I needed my whole life . Fire away my friends

Am I just young and naive? 3
Do I not know the true meaning of love? 0
Am I in love? 1
Do I have much to still experience? 1
Should I hold onto her because nothing's wrong? 1
Am I over thinking? 7
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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Don't question it, just live it.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    If you are young and still growing, things might change between you two. But maybe with patience and determination you could stay together. Relationships are a lot of work; I'm sure marriages are even more difficult. Good luck

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Onlyyou can answer your own question of what you want.
    I remember in my last relationship I sometimes felt that I was unsure if I was ready for commitment because I never got to experience being with lots of girls and wasnt sure if I should settle for my first long term relationship, not because of anything wrong with her, but because I didnt try different options. I was never to interested in relationships either, but she grew on me and I decided to try out a relationship. It just seemed to evolve that way.
    Anyways we didnt work out. We were incompatible room mates and even though I got along better with her than anybody, we still had problems. I do not really like to live with others either.

    Anyways a few years have gone by and Ive realized, I am just not into anybody else. Really I never was to begin with but I had made an exception. Sometimes i think it would have been nice to work things out, but I cannot live with someone who hoards animals and is neglectful, which were really my only main problems with her. I could go on with the animal hoarding, but I will not.

    Anyways I may try something like that again someday, but I really would like someone who wants to live seperately.

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  • Incomplet
    8 years ago

    You're probably too young to be thinking about parenthood, which explains your feelings about that pregnancy scare.

    Otherwise, I don't see anything particularly off about your relationship? Relationships aren't always pink fluffy clouds and unicorns. Pretty much all of them go through more boring and mundane patches as well.

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