Finding out my sexuality orientation - midlife

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i think i'm going through my mid-life crisis in my 30s. just wanna be true to myself. I'm a female/tomboy. sexually attracted to men since teen. but do i like male more than female emotionally? not so sure. I do love some of my female friends but not sexually maybe romantically. wanna be close with her but not sexually; i'm not quite interested in female sexual "parts". Also, lately, i'm attracted to masculine/cool females with short hairs. I'm not so sure what is going on with me. Don't know what to do.

Love is more impt to me than sex. Unfortunately, in our society, having sex is essential in building a closer relationship.

for lesbians, i wonder if you first connected w/ a potential partner b/c there is a strong emotional attraction first. do you prefer a female physical body more than a male physical body?

thanks!

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  • Aethylfritha
    6 years ago

    Wish i could help ypu but ive always just been a straight, stereotypical girlie chick.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    That's normal and you should experiment and see what you feel.

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      I agree, why not try it out and see if she likes it. I bet she will 😏

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      • Alichael
        6 years ago

        Women are beautiful, inside and out. Sometimes though, there'll be a woman who feels the need to be a mean bitch.

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  • athem
    6 years ago

    As a lesbian, I've found it's been a mixture of physical attraction and emotional connections. In general, I find female physical bodies more attractive than males, but I generally develop a much stronger emotional connection to girls as well.

    And don't worry, it'c completely normal to question, regardless of age! I'd agree with what's already been said: experimenting could be a good plan if you want to explore this side of your sexuality.

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    • amyw1
      6 years ago

      Thanks for your reply. I always wonder if some lesbian prefers a female body even during puberty.

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      • athem
        6 years ago

        It's no problem! I definitely preferred female bodies during puberty as well, if that gives you any more information, but I also knew my orientation at a fairly young age.

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  • fakeaccount4
    6 years ago

    Cute !!
    I get what you feel (love > sex and unfortunately not many people seem to hold this value) i always preferred female body sexually, but I am more attracted to men’s personality towhere sexual attraction can occur secondary to a strong emotional connect with them. ❤️ Sadly this had only ever happened with 1 person and I am in my mid-20s

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    • amyw1
      6 years ago

      Thanks for your reply. I assume that you are female. did you prefer female body even during puberty?

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      • fakeaccount4
        6 years ago

        Yes, I think I preferred them more then, but despite that always dreamed of being with a boy for a lifelong relationship. I tried to suppress the feelings for women, to where I was fine just fantasizing about/looking at their bodies (and never actually going out with one)..but fantasizing about guys for their personality and true love

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  • noid
    6 years ago

    So not a midlife crisis.

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    • amyw1
      6 years ago

      not to you. to me yes.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Both emotional and physical. I love my girlfriends parts.

    I don't understand lesbian women that are attracted to butch, masculine looking girls with short hair tho. You may as well date a man.

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    • Alichael
      6 years ago

      Yeh really. I'm a straight guy and I find butch masculine women a total turn off, so don't lesbians get turned on by the same things about women that straight guys do?

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      • Alichael
        6 years ago

        One negative point, eh? So they don't then?

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        • amyw1
          6 years ago

          I don't think a woman, whether she is les or not, can do the same thing as a straight guy does!

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    • amyw1
      6 years ago

      Thanks for your reply. I always wonder if some lesbian prefers a female body even during puberty.

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