Finding hookups in open relationship but with low self-esteem?

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My partner and I have been together since 11 years and in a monogamous relationship. He’s always been very clear about the fact that he was excited about me going with other people (I like both males and females).
I’ve never really acted on this desire, except posting (very) sexy pics on websites without my face, or having a clearly nsfw snapchat. But never with my face and always virtual.
Time has passed and I like to flirt with people. I’ve always been a bit naughty I guess, but never quite felt like it could go anywhere, since a part of me is convinced I’m clearly not desirable enough to find even a one night stand. I’ve been rejected in the past, but it’s been so long. I feel like I don’t have the tools for all this IRL.

At this point, I’m too afraid to try and find hookups, even with apps… I guess I don’t want to feel the rejection. But at the same time… Excited about a potential “win”.
Feeling stupid.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    Sorry, I find people who are looking for people for sexual use with low esteem to be abusers.

    There is nothing balanced about the relationship you are seeking, and its harmful to the other person.

    While I do know how to find those kinds of people - I'm never going to tell you.

    I suggest that you look for people at your own esteem level or above.

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  • farkelu
    2 years ago

    I wouldn't do it if I was you.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    You'll find guys pretty easily. You have to get use to rejection.

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