Fiance texts her boss all the time

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My fiance of 6 years is always texting her boss (about 10 years older than her). However it is always in secret. She texts him out with work about non work related stuff. This has probably been going in for a couple of years. I try not to think anything of it because we have a great relationship. However every now and again I have my doubts.

Around 3 years ago on a drunken night out I kissed a girl from my work. My then girlfriend immediately found out but I was too drunk at the time to talk about anything. The next morning I woke up with so much guilt. It was a horrible feeling so god only knows how she felt. Anyway I said to her that if she left me I wouldn't blame her. She didn't want to leave me though. The next couple of months were hard but we made it work. It was shortly after that I came across her Facebook messages from her boss. She had told him about everything and it seemed to spark a good 'friendship' between them. I immediately assumed the worst and broke down. I confronted her about it and she had answers for everything.

Ever since then I've always had doubts. I want to believe its just me but I find it hard sometimes. I don't want to confront her again because I'm afraid of what she'll say if I'm right or what she'll say if I'm wrong. We are getting married this year and got engaged last year.

She said that she needed someone to talk to about everything after I cheated on her. And her boss was there for her. She was talking to him in secret then just metres away from me at the time. I remember in the chat them saying make sure I don't find out about this and make sure the bosses wife doesn't find out about this. I was in a bit of a mess at the time so I would have believed anything but looking back it just seems wrong.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It seems you have trust issues. I don't think I would marry a woman that I didn't feel I could trust.
    If you can't even talk to her about this stuff now, what kind of marriage can you expect?
    Nope, time to move on buddy, your engagement has already run way off the rails.

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  • ginsters101
    9 years ago

    Your girl is fucking the boss. Sorry.

    Secret texting, not wanting partners to find out. Her boss was 'there for her'. All this says they ARE having sex.

    You have a choice - either dump her, or become cuckold to her, this is what I chose when I found out about my wife's affair - its very sexy

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  • THL22
    9 years ago

    that's really rough man:( I know you need to trust her. especially if your getting married. She wants to be with you! Otherwise she wouldn't be. I know this isn't of any help but If the trust is gonna then what is the relationship based on? I know you don't want to hear this but I think you should sit down with her and talk about what's bothering you. And be gentle. Give her time to say her things as well. I think it's weird to be friends with your boss especially if he's 10 years older. and I thinks it's wrong of him to talk to her outside of work and on facebook. What kind of relation is that? It's just wrong. But that might just be me. After reading the last chapter in your post I really think you should talk to her. She's your little girl. And You're her man too! You should be best friends and have no secrets for each other!

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    Read her messages.

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