Feminine men.... opinions? girls only

last night i was talking with a friend and she told me she had fallen for some gay guys, and the idea of an effeminate man really turned her on. I find that weird, but not uncommon. Personally the stereotypical image of a gay man never turns me on in any way. I prefer my man to be manly. I believe being manly doesn't mean being a sexist redneck pig.I've tried dating someone who's soft and have some feminine traits(he looks manly tho) and it didnt work out. I couldn't even imagine what it would look like if i date someone who looks feminine in the first place.

hate them. i might as well date a girl. 24
don't mind them but wouldn't consider dating them 51
love them... and if they are gay it would be hotter 33
love them... 105
having a soft side doesn't equal being feminine. dont like them 32
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  • crimson_mamba

    OMG! Im in the middle of getting close to one of these "feminine men" well, at first i suspected that he was only pretending to be "gay" so that he can touch my boobs (we were talking if my boobs were real or fake and so he said prove it let me touch them and giggled. I let him because i thought he was gay and not being a perv...

    anyway, theres something sensual about him though. Now im realizing hes not gay AT ALL, he is only very soft, its weird because at a glance he looks manly macho, but he has such a charisma and when he has his swag on, he pulls it off in such a feminine way, its very ATTRACTIVE, meaning you want to be close around him, and i dont see them as "gay"

    if you are asking if i get turned on by two homosexual men having sex, ehhh, slightly, not as much as having a soft man who i can completely SEXUALLY CONTROL and have my way with him when it comes to sex

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    • Oasis808

      awwwe, I love you!

      I wish you the best of luck with this guy.

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  • Oasis808

    I know the titles says girls only, but as a feminine guy I felt the need to comment. I want you girls to know I can be more manly at times than my friends people would consider manly. I don't really like being feminine, but I look stupid if I try to act macho so I just be myself. Sadly, many people assume I am gay. Just so you girls know not all feminine guys are homosexual!

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    • englishbudgie0125

      by the way if you look like a man then that's ok. some men just go out of their way to make themselves look feminine.

      for me i dont even mind metrosexual guys as long as they look macho.

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    • englishbudgie0125

      well personally i m not really into feminine guys but i feel you.i know lots of very macho gay guys ...
      what prompted me to make this poll is my friend's sexuality i find it really weird but uncommon.

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  • dom180

    I won't vote because I'm a guy, but I'm offering my opinion as a straight-yet-stereotypically-effeminate guy. I fit comfortably under the label of "metrosexual". Like Oasis808 I naturally look and behave as I do, and I look and feel ridiculous if I do anything different. A lot of people also presume I am gay. My girlfriend thinks it's cute as opposed to off-putting, and it also kind of helps that I fit in well with her girlfriends xD Sadly, some girls are all too keen to give their frank opinion that it's very unattractive, without me even asking them, which is a bit rude.

    Btw, presuming englishbudgie0125 is the OP, it is perfectly okay to only like macho guys; a lot of guys only like girly girls, and it's the same difference really. Different people are attracted to different things. Some girls are attracted to feminine guys; most are not. It's definitely normal to not be attracted to them, but that doesn't make it weird TO like them either. If that makes sense; sorry for so being long-winded!

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  • Aurora93

    There's a difference between 'feminine' and 'gay'. Which one are you asking about? And does it include camp?

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    • lc1988

      From the title, I'd say the op is asking about feminine.

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  • missy18

    My mum thought my dad was gay when she first met him... though he didn't look feminine, just his manner.

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  • ant19645

    honestly being feminine seems to make finding that special person really hard... i know from experience... it might be because i am over the top with this... i love being feminine i even want to look more feminine....

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  • theaverageatheist

    I don't mind if their nice but not too girly.
    I dated a bi man once and quite liked it. as long as they aren't too effeminate in caracter.
    I couldn't care less if thei look effeminate.
    I love guys with a soft side but I have never associated it with girly.

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  • Everyone makes fun of me for being feminine.

    I always thought girls liked "effeminate" guys...

    I guess I was wrong :'I

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  • Crudhouse

    Goddamn romcoms are making me more effeminate every year. Change the formula damnit

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  • I love effeminate men, you can pretty much say whatever you want to them, even kick their ass a little bit and since they are such giant pussy's they wont do anything back to you.

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    • robbieforgotpw

      Hahahahahaha

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  • mekzpop

    I really LOVE cute-looking guys, who are handsome and sorta feminine looking but also are obviously guys. If there was an androgynous-looking person I'd probably date them if they definitely weren't gay, though I'd suspect they were gay before I even asked anyway :( I hate muscular men though, or people who are really tall, I wouldn't want to date them, even if they were really muscular and what is known as "hot"-looking lol. I wouldn't be attracted to someone camp, or someone who's gay, because they're never gonna be attracted to you and it just wouldn't work (unless they were just bi). It kinda sucks that lots of attractive guys are gay though.

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  • tiffunny5

    I was going to ask this same question on here. I'm very attracted to " gay " guys. Not not much staight feminine guy's.

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    • Avant-Garde

      Same here... But, I've learned that it's pointless for me to try to pursue a relationship with a gay man:(

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  • Avant-Garde

    Just because a man has feminine qualities doesn't make him gay. There's a difference between the two.

    I think it's normal. I find myself being more attracted to feminine men than manly ones. It just depends on a person's preference.

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