Feeling very depressed (real. please advise)

I feel a lot of pain for you. But GUESS WHAT?! uh, you are normal. Did you know that Post partum depression can last for YEARS?! you have GOT to talk to a doctor. they aren't gonna freak out and take ur kids if that's what you are scared of. You have to find a better way. giving up will do absolutely NOTHING! those children love you and deserve you! and you deserve them, you just need to do all you can do keep you and your family happy. as a mom, i understand. believe me! 1st see a dr. 2nd, do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING in your powers to make things better for you!! you guys will make it. I remember that when my son was very little I got very down, ur not alone. but stop giving up. you shouldn't even THINK that is an option. it's not. you have children, so chill :)

Do you have a problem bonding with your baby? Have you been diagnosed with postnatal depression? Please tell a doctor how you feel. There is help out there.

No one on this web site is going to help you in any way. Seek professional help.

Counselling is an option but there are natural ways to self heal oneself of depression. An abundance of Unconditional Love using Awakened Ones Love Energy Techniques is an ancient and effective method for healing all forms of depression. Traditional medicine generally have other unwanted side effects.

i understand your partner works overnight, but you ave birth. he can stand to stay up a little bit, at least until the newborn is able to sleep at night peacefully. No offense to you, you Are under a lot of stress. Frankly i think you need the help because like i said, you bore the damn child, the least he could do is stay awake and let you sleep, hell your still working. Where is yo husband, let me at em?

Totally, completely normal! plus if your dad lets him cry it'll be worth it in the end cos he'll end up learning to settle himself faster. Kids literally drive you insane with the lack of sleep...but I promise that in a couple years you won't even remember how it is now.

Dont give up :)

Your baby is prolly out of diapers by now. I hope life has gotten a little less stressful for now and I'm glad you ultimately chose to reach for the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you love and peace when you look into the eyes of your beautiful children :)

talking about it helps but you need to tell your partner-- go visit a relative for a few days of change, it helps to get away -- then see a therapist- you're not alone-- anti depressants are great but tell someone you know. a crisis center or suicide hotline helps too in case of ER.. if you can get up and go to work then you can make a call for yourself. children are gifts from God...and he picked you, your partner sleeps with you so open your heart and tell him

This happens often..its not a unique situation..many couples cannot afford a fully time sitter, and working 2 jobs is a must, so your both stuck on different shifts trying to take care of your children. your doing the right thing. idk about any advice i can really give other than hopefully you can get financially stable enough to where one of you can quit working at least until both your children are in school.

as for your father letting the child cry..its not exactly a bad thing. basically it will condition the baby to where it feels crying will not get it what it wants. in psychology they actually push you to ignore you baby when it cries for attention. not all the time mind you but dont over-do it.

hello? anti depressents/pot. this is not fake. pot releases your endorfins and makes you relaxed. get some medicinal marijuana

Hey this comment is for the lady who needs help: I agree with that jim guy nobody can really help you on a website but its better than nothing...right? And dont kill yourself! THink abou tit! How would yours sons feel later when they ask there dad what happened to mommy? And he has to reply "she got to depressed and killed herself but she was a GREAT woman!

also dont u get paid leave for a year?

omg ur hardcore i couldnt work i have a 2 yr old and i havent worked yet im on welfare i have social anxiety and depression so its hard for me to work anyway but with a kid omg i dont think i could do that! but u need to talk to someone DO not kill yourself plz ur kids need u u will mess them up if u do. taking care of a baby is harrd, u need help and fast!

Ok, like the others said, get help, and please don't kill yourself. Also, (I'm not trying to be a smartass or anything, just a suggestion), next time you and your partner are thinking about having a child, think about if it's going to work out for you. With your schedule at the moment, I don't think that it was a very good time for you to have a baby (unless things were different when he was conceived).

Yea I suffer from depression also. I wanted to kill myself plenty of times. Since I was 11. I planned it ou and everything, dont do anything rational.

NOW THAT, THATS SAID LETS ALL CRY OUT EMO GIRL!!

Fuck you

lots of women get depressed after giving birth.... like andrea yates.... so go to a doctor unless you want to risk drowning your babies too. It can happen to anyone. Even though babies are gross and weird and slimy... they get taller and arent so bad once they can wipe their own ass and feed themselves.... so hang in there... your slime ball may be the inventor of the cure for aids or something.

killing yourself will not resolve any problems, in fact it will only make matters worst.
is the easy way out for you, just leaving all your worries and troubles behind, but think about your husband and your kids...what will your kids do growing up with out a mother to support them, and your husband without a wife to be there for him.
think about that. killing yourself is not an option is just an easy exit to avoid facing the problems life throws at you.

What you really need to do is have your partner work and you stay at home full-time or vice-versa. If he or you have to work several jobs then so be it. The problem is both of you working and not having a person you can rely upon to assist you. There are ways to earn money part-time from a computer and still reside at home the entire time. I can't vouch for any of the home business plans authenticity but people have earned money from their home computers, one way is handling medical billing.

It sounds like you are suffering from burnout, where your body is shutting down from too much stress.

The next step is to set up an appointment with your doctor and explain your story and ask for a referral to a professional who deals with depression. You come across as depressed and depression is a treatable illness.

Taking one's life is not only selfish but extremely cruel to your children so quit those thoughts. Your children need you.

So, speak to your husband and explain what really needs to be done, that both of you can't be away from the home and working during the week. One of you can work full-time and the other must be at home full-time.

And, see a doctor about the depression.

If you work together, and seek help, you will resolve this problem no matter how disillusioned you may feel at this time.

Good luck.

Have you tried to talk to your partner about it? Try sitting him/her down and telling them that the baby is overwhelming you and that you really need their help. Babies can of course be very frustrating and it is normal for parents to have some depression. I think it is best if you talk to your partner or perhaps seek help from a babysitter/nanny/ etc.

Can your partner change their work hours?

go to a theripist, talking it out is the best way to deal w/ ur problems

oh.. thats bad il try and give some good advice but im only 16. first DON'T KILL YOURSELF your partner loves you and would get very depressed if you killed yourself. second you need abit is self control hitting your kids will have you put in jail or something. and finally talk to your partner or dad about it im sure they will supoort you good luck with that. i