Feeling terrible after losing my virginity

You know, I'm an 18 year old male and a Christian. I'm keeping it in my pants til marriage. So when I hear this sort of crap I get really angry. Seriously, what is it with guys and sex?!? Is it seriously worth: giving up a lasting relationship/self esteem/hurting your partner/getting STD's, just for a few moments of orgasm? How can people place more stock in physical sensations over emotional intimacy? Sorry for the rant, that guy's the worst kind of person. Anyway, I suggest that you follow abstinence. Easiest way to tell if most guys are in it for the long haul.

i think i know who this is, becky??

Tell him you have aids, that'll teach him. I don't know how to help you feel less shitty but we all learn from mistakes. I hope for you that the next guy in your life won't be a heartless tranny ass licker.

Join the club. For most, the first time isn't as magical and special as stephenie meyer makes it out to be.

This happens to you because you rushed things. You wanted to have sex so badly, plus it was your 1st time, and you only wait for 2 weeks? How about waiting to have a real commitment/relationship before losing your virginity to some random hot guy? Cry me a river!

I had a friend in the same boat as you. She met another guy, they dated for about 2 months until sex, and when they did have sex she said it felt like the first time. The other guy didn't count.

You shouldn't have feelings for him because he was just after your V card. He's a real bastard. Instead of being sad you should be furious.

Tell the guy you went to a STD clinic and have been informed that you have Syphilis! Inform him that he was the second guy you slept with and that they want to interview your sexual partners as it is extremely dangerous!

It's your fault. He's just an asshole. But the fact is you gave it up to someone you knew for two weeks.

In those two weeks how many total hours did you spend together? 8? 15? 30?

Am I close? In total, you knew this dirt-bag for a day.

He does not have a piece of you. He has to live with guilt and the fear of someone taking offense to what he did to you. Actually, you've got a piece of him - you have friends and his address.

If you were my sister, I'd call someone that's totally uninvolved to give him a tune-up. A hole in a knee-cap burns a lot more than a broken heart.

And by now he's told everyone. Karma's a bitch. He's got some bad stuff coming back at him.

Please don't beat yourself up over this. Did you know you can PHYSICALLY (medically) make your body exactly how it was earlier that day?

Mentally, you need to be loved and RESPECTED. This problem seems huge, but you will be stronger for it. There's a lot of 'speed-bumps' in life. With love and RESPECT, it will become a faded bad memory.

Don't forget, some women lose their virginity to a one night stand after being drugged, or to a sex criminal. They also end up pregnant. Focus on your self-RESPECT. You can use this to strengthen you when you teach your own children about this stuff when the time comes.

My late grand-father had a saying, "A woman can run much faster with her dress up than a man can run with his pants down." I hope my grand-pa's words put even a tiny smile on your face.

Just keep your legs closed. The 4 hours of bullshit ain't worth the 4 minutes. What kind of flowers did he send you the next day? See? He's a total asshole. If you had (or have) a daughter, what advice would you give her at this time?

I have a sister, and in New York City 'Tune-Ups' worked wonders. You'd be out on a date a year from now. You will be having a nice meal and getting RESPECT.

Mr. Asshole will still be walking around with a limp.

honey ask anyone on the street if they would take back their first time and i bet everyone will say would. fuck i would too

If it was a one night stand then yes.

Yeah, that's very normal. You want to lose your virginity to someone who reciprocates your feelings.

My aunt always told me, don't start messing with a guy thinking you're not going to get attached. Girls almost ALWAYS get attached. But honestly hun, the feeling of hurt will go away. Just wait it out. <3

Normal. It is almost impossible for us females to disconnect emotionally from sex. For men it is easy. This is proven fact. Even when we know this fact, we still tell ourselves 'this guy is different'. He's probably not. Hold on to this memory, it may prevent heartbreak in the future. And really really really truly... Sex will not make a guy like you more. :(

One time i was bieng seduced and right when i started to get naked my mom wlked right in i never saw the guy agian my mom grounded me i was so embarassed

i knew what you feel because of i can relate to this matter. the best thing you can do is focus your attention to valuable things, like join on some extra curricular activities or keep yourself busy to some things worth of your time. i knew that its not easy to start things anew. don't give a damn for that person. He's not worthy for anything...

In a way they do have a peice of you because you can never get that inocence back but dont let that define you... a true relationship is not based just on sex. One day you will find your soul mate and none of this will matter anymore because they will care about you as a person and not about if you're a virgin or not. All of our experience shape us into the person we are meant to be; all of them, the good and the bad. It's learning how to deal with our experiences that matters.

Mason

Time heals all wounds. You can't get your virginity back, but maybe you have learned a lesson. 2 weeks isn't quite long enough to really, truly know a person. Love takes time, it is built on a foundation of friendship, honesty and trust. These develop and are not things to be taken for granted. The guy who you were with is an asshole and deserves whatever he gets, if he continued to be a player, he will end up being a dead-beat father with a case of an STD. Guaranteed. Tell anyone who will listen what he did to you, so that maybe other girls will stay away from him. His reputation will be destroyed, and he will have no one to blame but himself. Take the time to get to know your next boyfriend, if he really cares for you, he will wait for the sex. If he doesn't want to wait and keeps pressuring you, then that is your signal it isn't real. Good luck honey, sometimes learning the hard way, is for the best.