Feeling left out

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My boyfriend and I just got back from a vacation overseas. We were visiting an old friend of his, staying at her house for the majority of the trip. I felt completely out of place the entire time - all of the people we encountered (including my boyfriend's friend) made more of an effort to include my boyfriend than they did me. I felt like no one liked me, despite my continued effort to be friendly and courteous. Now that we've returned home, everyone has continued to contact my boyfriend and ignore me. I feel left out, and it bothers me that my boyfriend continues to engage in conversation with these women. I know that he has a right to make friends, and I realize that I can't force people like/interact with me, but I've tried to initiate conversation with them and it hasn't gotten anywhere. Do I talk to my boyfriend about the situation, asking him to discontinue contact? Do I ignore it, allowing him to have friends that clearly don't like me, continuing to feel hurt in the process? Is there a middle ground here?

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  • ACAddict
    11 years ago

    Well i would talk to your boyfriend tell him it bothers you, tell him he can continue talking to these people, BUT if he does so that he will be hurting you, that you feel left out.
    Tell him that he can continue talking to them, and you would prefer it if they had included you more often in conversations, maybe even ask him to ask them if they dont like you for whatever reason.

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  • FlyingSheilds
    14 years ago

    That's what happens when you're in a group of three people. Someone usually is left out a bit more

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    That sucks. I know how you feel. I've been there. Maybe you should try talking to him about it. Let him know it really bothers you. If not, he might not know, and he wouldn't see a problem. Good luck!

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