Feeling anger towards someone for no reason?

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is it normal that i hate my mums new boyfriend for no reason at all? recently my mum got a new boyfriend, he seems nice and they get along pretty well but for the past few months ive been feeling increasingly irritated towards him, it’s starting to get unbearable. im having intrusive thoughts about hurting him and everytime i hear or see him im filled with so much anger. i cant talk to my mum about it because i know she wouldn’t understand and would get angry. im not a violent or angry person, i dont know why im feeling so much hate towards him because he seems nice. could it have anything to do with my ptsd? sometimes it makes me really irritable and hypersensitive to things

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Based on 12 votes (7 yes)
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  • Niko12321
    3 years ago

    Don't listen to --. This is the call of the void mix with defensiveness for your mother. Is this the first time your mother has dated another person besides your father in your lifetime?

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    • punpun
      3 years ago

      no, shes always dating guys but this one has been sticking around for a while now. i have a lot of childhood trauma surrounding men and my real father and i constantly feel on edge around this guy so that could possibly be the reason, i just wanted to know if it was normal. ive never felt this much anger before but the poor guy isn’t doing anything wrong.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Have you had a chance to talk to your dad about this guy?

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        • punpun
          3 years ago

          no i don’t have any contact with him, he wasn’t a good person.

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            I'm sorry to hear that.

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  • LOLFanProductions
    3 years ago

    It's a protective family instinct. I know this because my older brother dated a few cunts. From my eye contact alone I told them "Don't fuck with my brothers heart or I swear to God, I will personally fuck you up". I know if my fiance ever cheats or hurts me, my brother will be there to beat the living shit out of him!

    My brother and I never got along as kids, but overtime we learned to watch each other's back.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Maybe you have bad feelings about this guy that you can't quite put your finger on, OP?

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    • punpun
      3 years ago

      you could be right. i dont feel comfortable around him and feeling on edge and uncomfortable in your own home isn’t a great feeling.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        I think you should honor your emotions, and explore those feelings. I also highly recommend reading the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. I mean who is to say that there's not something weird, or creepy about the guy that you might be unaware of on the surface, but subconsciously you know isn't right?

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        • punpun
          3 years ago

          thankyou so much for your help! i’ll definitely look into that book

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            You're most welcome! 🙂

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    You’re a full blown clinical psychopath and your mask is sliiiiiiiiping as can only be maintained in interpersonal relationships for a limited time 🤭

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    • punpun
      3 years ago

      damn you got me

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      • Tommythecaty
        3 years ago

        🤫

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  • --
    3 years ago

    Another dog on your territory

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Not necessarily.

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      • --
        3 years ago

        woof woof

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