Fear of relationships

Yes it's completely normal. I am going through the same thing. I think it has to do with my parents divorcing when I was little. It's like I don't know how to act in a relationship because I was neglected and taken away by one parent. Then I go to live with the other parent on the weekend so I miss out on friends and a life. If I start dating someone I immediately feel like this is wrong and I feel guilty for doing it. Like I don't deserve love or something:(

If it's not normal, then I'm not normal either.

I feel like it's because of insecurities that you don't want to reveal. I think this only because I have evaluated my situation and I know it's true. My insecurities with myself have created a huge rift between me and possible love.

If the person you are with doesn't make you feel comfortable ask....are they making you feel uncomfortable or are you making yourself feel that way? Then, exactly what part do you steer away from? The physical part? The emotions? The commitment? I guess it could be all those things as they tie together.

If we have similar issues, I don't know the answer, but I am a work in progress. I ask myself what it is I want in the future. I always said I don't want to marry, but the older I get, the more I wonder if that's true or a cop-out. I need to put myself out there more. They say, "Some birds should never be caged, their wings are too beautiful to hide." Cheesy, but kind of applicable.

Sure women are always afraid of relationships, they usually sabotage them at some point because they just can't stand the fear and doubt.

If the guy is too good then they wonder "Wow he is too good, he is going to cheat"

If the guy is a dog then they wonder "I know he is a dog and he is cheating with someone"

So its loose / loose.

Maybe you need to ask him to take things slow or slower then now for you sake.