Fantasizing about fictional guy whilst in an irl relationship

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So I'm in my 30's, married to a wonderful guy, but all I want to do is daydream away about being with Kakashi from Naruto (manga/anime).
It doesn't impact so much on my life, other than me wanting to read all the time (but husband is used to that) and that when I'm lying in bed or on a bus all I do is think about being with Kakashi in Naruto's world, how we'd get together, missions we'd go on, sleeping with each other etc etc....you catch my drift? I could write books to rival Make-Out Paradise with the fantasies in my head ;)
This is the first time I've had a crush on someone who isn't a real life human being - I know I'm not alone in having feelings for a fictional character but I do feel weird given my age and martial status. And it's very frustrating not to be able to do anything about it as I've done irl with other crushes I've had in the past :/

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  • horny_simpletons
    8 years ago

    I'm currently single but I've done something like this. I fantasized about a guy I saw in my dreams (I guess my subconscious mind created him). When I was with my last bf I didn't fantasize about anyone else, real or fictional..I liked him too much. But like the top comment said, at least you can't cheat with a fictional person. It could be worse.

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    • Mrs_Hatake
      8 years ago

      Thanks Horny :)
      After reflecting on it all I think it's prob something like a 'grass is always greener' thing that I'm playing out in my head with someone safe (cos they ain't real!).
      I think part of my issue is probably that I've been with my man for 16 yrs - scary huh! (sure as f*ck scares me lol!) And I do love him a lot but I guess I miss the joy of a new relationship and the touch of another man - just the excitement of it all. But saying that I have a pretty awesome life with a great guy - so I shouldn't be complaining...but I am lol! I mean, who wouldn't want to bang a drop dead gorgeous shinobi? ;)

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      • Forestheart
        8 years ago

        Is a long lasting marriage really that scary? You girls are scaring me! 'Cause I never intend to get divorced and the other way around it out of the question.

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        • Mrs_Hatake
          8 years ago

          What murder? ;) And never say never (re divorce, not killing your spouse) cos you just don't know what the future holds - just a tip from an old married broad ;)

          I think any long relationship can be scary in some ways but in most ways, for me at least, it's pretty damn awesome :)
          Contrary to popular belief girls have commitment issues & wandering eyes too and there are always 'what ifs?' going on somewhere deep in your brain.
          So whilst I said the 'it scares me' partly in jest I think it does hold true to an extent.

          That's prob why I like to go off into my own Kakashi-chan filled space and play out all those things that you don't get when you've been with someone for so long. And let's face it a world of shinobi with you bagging the hottest guy around can be a helluva lot more fun than reality :D

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    It's pretty normal for any age, but if you wanna get over it and move on try to be occupied with other things. Or perhaps you can even switch you manga/anime. Try fullmetal alchemist/one piece, I doubt you'll like anyone enough to fantasize about 'em.

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    • Mrs_Hatake
      8 years ago

      Thanks for the advice. I'm def gonna have a break from Naruto Land once done with the manga - I've recently started reading Noragami & watching Blue Exorcist (I'm enjoying both in a very non sexual way ;) )and have FMA, Hunter x Hunter and plenty of others on my to read/watch list :) So I'll have plenty to keep me occupied if/when I need to take an obsession break from my fictional husband <3

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    8 years ago

    Seems like a better situation than if you had a crush on a real guy. At least your not in danger of cheating. I guess having sexual fantasies is normal at any age. But if you feel it's getting to be an obsession why don't you just stay away from all Naruto material for a while and get some time to clear your head.
    Or is this more of a roleplay opportunity? I have no clue.

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    • Mrs_Hatake
      8 years ago

      Yeah I guess ur right about it being better than a real guy - far less dangerous :)
      I don't think I can leave Naruto Land just yet as I have to finish reading the Manga (will only take me a few days) then I might take your advice and have a break :)
      As for role play...well who knows? ;)

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  • mwahaha
    8 years ago

    Me too, though I'm still single and not fantasizing in sexual way, just romance and stuff. I can't bring myself to imagine being in sexual situation with my favorite character, though. I like Yoichi Hiruma from Eyeshield 21 but the thought have never crossed my mind. When I read a fanfiction, I always avoiding the one that have sexual stuff because I just can't imagine Hiruma doing that XD
    So, I can't vote for this question at all. I'm in the middle for this one question.

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    • Mrs_Hatake
      8 years ago

      Hey Mwahaha (nice username btw :) )
      Thanks for replying &amp; being honest :) I totally understand about the whole romance/no sex thing. Tbh most of my Kakashi fantasies are based around the romance &amp; stuff too - I find that side of things much more fulfilling than just hot sweaty sex (though hot sweaty sex after romance is pretty goddamn good ;) ), I guess for me being in a long term relationship for the last 15+ yrs there isn't much romance in my life (or sex for that matter - but that's more complicated) &amp; this is my way of getting it.
      Now I don't blame you for not reading the sexual fanfic stuff about ur Hiruma (who u totally know I'm gonna be checking out now ;) ) cos the sex in some fanfic is pretty crap/crappily written - but when it's in my own imagination and Kakashi's with me (the only person he should be with obvs) it's pretty incredible. But I do have a vivid imagination ;)

      I think if I had to choose between sex &amp; romance - romance wins every time...that shows what a girl I am ;)

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