Family (that never was) conflict

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My father just recently had a stroke. I have two older brothers who were never much a part of my life due to them being much older than I am (a six-year and nine-year difference). My only real memories of either of them was hearing them complain about how much more time our father spent with me and not as much with them. I was always referred to a "spoiled brat" for this reason. I once got an organ when my brother wanted an electric guitar, and he complained about this for years. Anyway, that's the basic historic picture of my relationship with them. So, back to my father having a stroke. Brother is now power of attorney, and immediately told me to "shut up and stay out of it" when I tried to be involved in my father's care. I was also locked out of my father's house, with only the two brothers now having new keys for the new locks. Not only has their attitude and behavior towards me been shockingly awful, I realize now just how resentful and hostile they always were towards me, and why I could never understand it when I was a child but understand it more clearly now. I really don't want to have anything more to do with them, but in order to see my father, I have to contend with their behavior. Any advice from someone who has experience with this?

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  • mlbryan44
    8 years ago

    You could kill the cocksuckers or ignore them as much as possible and after your Dad pulls the plug you can forget the bastards forever.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    Wow, your brothers suck! You can't blame it on the age gap either, my cousins are also 6 years apart, and are extremely close and always have been. You definitely need to talk this through with your brothers, and if they won't listen, tell another relative about this, and get them to intervene.

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  • Zorwog
    8 years ago

    I guess I should also add that my oldest brother was addicted to cocaine for several years. He says he is clean now, but when I saw him in the hospital following our father's stroke, he appeared to me to be totally ripped on something (pale lips, red eyes, huge smile, and giggly) - what a mess. The other brother is a former Air Force guy, and he likes to let everyone know how important his current civilian "high level security operations" job is, without actually telling anyone what he does exactly. So, he flew in following dad's stroke to take over the position of power of attorney, even though our dad never authorized this power in a competent state before his stroke (he signed the forms with a scribble, and that was acceptable to the notary in the hospital.) Both brothers are completely oblivious to dad's needs of care and understanding, and the one who is now power of attorney has already stated that he doesn't want to use any of dad's remaining funds to pay for any additional care dad may need. This is what bothers me the most out of all of this. I am very concerned that my being shut out is a means of basically ensuring an expedient demise of our father.

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