Family problems and abuse

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To make it clear I'm in a situation where I cannot go to a counselor (with or without my family), move out or confront my parents (or anyone close to me) with this issue.

Here's the story; Most of the time my brother is always being a jerk to me, but he doesn't do that in front of his friends or in public areas. (Total wanna-be and has fake personalities, seriously!) He hits me at home and invades in my personal space. My parents don't do SHIT and blame everything on me. They take his side and think he's always right but in reality he's a lying crazy dirt bag. The main reason why they think he's right is because they don't know my side of the story and he's twists the situation. So even if I do say anything they are oblivious to it. He includes stuff from who knows where, (his imagination?!) as if it actually happened! (Such as "Oh she did this and that.") When he hits me he'll go, "Oh, I was trying to get (blank) something but accidentally hit her."

**Note: I am a female.

I admit, sometimes I'm a bit clumsy and drop things and I clean up the mess I make but then my brother has to come along and make it even worse. He annoys me and teases me with stuff like, "You're so stupid and clumsy". Sometimes I think I should go to the police to report harassment and abuse.
It's hard to talk about this with friends because it's awkward. Relatives don't really understand anything and think that parents are always right. So I keep a cheerful attitude and hide everything in but I'm tired. It's like I'm on the brink of suicide, it's painful and suffocating to stay in this house.

Q: What should I do?

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Comments ( 17 )
  • precious8308
    11 years ago

    I would hide a cam recorder in my room and go take it to your parents. I bet they will listen then because u have proof of what he does to you. Good luck!

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  • littlemsEMOtional
    13 years ago

    All I have to say is im sorry.

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  • LetsLeadNotFollow
    13 years ago

    Show your story to your parents.
    They love you too.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    If the abuse continues or gets worse it's probably a good idea to report it to someone close to you that you trust or to the police. Don't hide it or put on a fake smile, this will just make you more upset. I know it's hard to deal with now but instead of letting this get you down, trust that things could get better in the future. Suicide is not a good idea, I know it probably seems like an easy way out but it's a weak thing to do. Be tough and don't let it get to you. I wish you all the best.

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  • runnergirl
    13 years ago

    Why exactly are you protecting an image...?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      If you were in a similar situation you wouldn't want people to stare at you because they know you're getting abused right? I just hate that so I try to keep my head up :(

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  • deepthought33
    13 years ago

    Have you told someone yet? All these poster are right. Your family's image is NOTHING compared to your well-being!
    I see that you are shy. Find just ONE person to tell. If that just happens to be one of your freinds then also ask them to help you tell an adult. They will find the right people to help you. They will not want you to continue being hurt.
    If you are still too shy to tell someone face-to-face then maybe you will be more comfortable emailing them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You are being victimized. This is domestic violence. Try your best to document what has been happening & when. Go to the police youth bureau or child welfare or school. Tell them what is happening and that you want it to stop.

    You have a right to be safe and secure. Your parents are failing in their job to protect you. This has reached a point of suicidal thoughts. You must reach out for your own welfare.

    You can do that. Please do.

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  • anonymous999
    13 years ago

    This may sound weird, but you should tell the truth about how you feel to your brother. He's probably just a silly bully who doesn't think about the consequences. He probably just simply likes to laugh at you. So he might get very shocked if you tell how suicidal you feel. I'll bet he'll stop. If not he has no hart. Then talk to your parents, doesn't help speak to a nice teacher or family doctor.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I'm not sure if he will care about the consequences. He's an addict to computer games, so I think that is what actually triggers his mad state. I'm scared of him, I've been brought up timidly and he's been oppressing me since I was a little girl. When he isn't on the computer or pissed about something he's actually "nice". However, when he gets on the computer he's has a whole new face, same thing when he's around my parents sometimes.

      To be honest, it's hard to bring up the subject of my thoughts of suicidal to anyone at all (whom I know face to face). My family doctor lives quite far and because of my reputation at school, it's even more awkward to bring it up to a teacher or counselor.

      Thus brings it all back to the "image".

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  • blondie28
    13 years ago

    If he ever puts his hAnds on u again turn around and pick up any available object and bust his fuckin head open!! Then maybe he will learn not to fuck with u! Stand up for ur self! Be a strong woman!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Call now

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Thanks for the suggestion, I'll keep that in mind but I rather not...

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  • stealinsugars
    13 years ago

    You need to get help. I don't know what makes you think you can't seek assistance from someone outside your family. If things are that bad, it may be the only way to make them better. Consider talking to a trusted adult, be it a teacher, a friend's parent, or a neighbor. You need to consider this before he seriously injures you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Main reason why I cannot seek assistance is because of I don't wish to ruin my family's image, or mine's.
      He's already hit me in the face, would that be considered a serious injury? I'm embarrassed about this and don't wish for it to be made public or anything. I'm a bit timid, I must admit and overall; shy.

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  • gowila
    13 years ago

    Look up how to deal with bullys on the net. You need to try and not incourage or get involved with it. Stop running to your parents and when he does try go to your parents, make out that you didn't know there was an issue, that way they will see that he is a shit.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      To me, he's apparently the "favorite" to my mother. My father favors me most of the time and helps me sometimes but in the end he's blaming it on both of us. Then I feel like he's blaming it on me because he barely brings up the subject when my brothers around.

      Most of those types of sites (helping kids with bullying) just tell you to talk to an adult and tell them to stop and more BS.

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