Family is covering up serious wrongdoing

Write a letter telling your story again to social services telling them you will hold the head of the department directly responsible for what is happening to this child.
make it very clear to them that they are being deceived and that this child should be removed from harm, even demand a paediatrics doctor looks at her.
good luck.

Yea, it's definitely normal not to want to associate with someone like that. That said, it might be better to establish some kinda contact just to keep an eye on your niece. This guy obviously isn't safe for her to be around, and if you're there you might pick up on it if it happens again, and maybe get evidence this time to convict him.

You cannot fight your family members, especially when they have ganged up on you. I would try my best to just protect your niece, and give her care, and seek child services and counseling.

I honestly don't know what advice I can give you hun. This is possibly the saddest post I've ever read. You know that poor child will be scarred from this, and as sad as that is, hopefully when she gets older she will tel her 'secret'. I just hope she doesn't blame herself. Your family sounds trashy (no offense) and it's so good that you don't stoop to their level. As much as you resent them (and i would too!) I think you should associate with them for the sake of your niece. You sound like a very caring person and she could certainly use a responsible loving adult in her life!

Okay, I know this is a late post... and I know that everyone is saying this, but...

DO NOT give up on this!!!! I know you have tried your best, and you truly are an amazing and a very caring aunt to take this on by yourself. So many people wouldn't have lifted a finger for this situation. You are very, very brave.

But I cannot stress enough how important it is that you get that little girl out of there NOW. I don't care if they've stopped sexually abusing her for the time being, or even permanently. She is still being abused in that she is living with/near the man who did this to her and the women who helped, and in that she is forced (probably through violence and intimidation) not to say a word. She will be HURT and SCARRED for her whole life. And if that man did it once, he will do it again. And again, and again until she comes to expect it.

This is the most terrible thing that can happen to a child. You need to get her out of there as SOON AS YOU CAN. Go to the police again, go to child protective services, go to social services. Let them know the whole story. The lies, the cover-ups, when it started, what your niece told you. Do NOT give up, and if you can, try your very hardest to get her to tell authorities herself.

I know that this is way easier said than done, but YOU could be the one to save this girl from even more pain and scars that last forever.

I say again, this is the worst thing that can happen to a child. My boyfriend... this happened to him. When he was little... gah, i can't even explain to you how terrible, or what it has done to him. He is the most scarred and hurt person I have ever seen, and he deserved none of it. He was a child, and he was repeatedly raped by the one woman who should have protected and loved him; his mother. He didn't get any help from ANYONE, and now he has so many problems... he's attempted suicide so many times, he thinks he is worth NOTHING, and he has the most severe case of paranoid schizophrenia I have ever heard of in real life. It hurts when people touch him because he learned that touching brought pain. Sometimes he blacks out when he remembers her, because his mind just can't face it. There's more, but it's not something people can really talk about.

People like your brother-in-law are EVIL. He CANNOT be aloud to do this to an innocent child. I know this is hard, but you really, really need to keep trying. Please. I don't know you, and I don't know your niece, but I am begging you not to give up on her.

I hope I don't sound cruel, or insensitive or like I don't recognize your kindness.

This isn't normal, please fight for your niece fuck what anybody else says. The longer she stays with them the more messed up she will be later in life. She will remember it; I was molested when I was 3 years old and I still remember it. Do what ever you have to do to protect her. If the authrities refuse to act you have to take it into your own hands. Him doing this to her is putting her life in danger, when she is older she could be driven to suicide. Do something ASAP!

Hide a camera in her room, record a conversation about it. Just be as sneaky as possible and get her out! .. I hope this happened

Its not normal at all. You should contact a lawyer, social services or even the police and tell them what happened. Do not stop until justice can be served.

i feel so bad for you, my dear. if my niece was ever abused, i'd go ballistic. i love her like my daughter, and that thought would positively kill me. fuck them. don't talk to them. if you do, you're making it alright and it's not.

I think you should agree to see them. You could see your niece and see for yourself how she's doing. Also, you could talk to your sister, really try again to get it through her head what a horrible monster her husband is. Would he be there though? That would be really hard because I'd want to kill him.
Also, could you talk to an adult close to your niece, like her teacher? Maybe she could tell you things going on with your niece & help you find a way to get evidence if your brother in law is still hurting her.
You are your nieces guardian angel & because of you I know she will be safe. I will keep you & your niece in my prayers.

Sorry I hadnt read the update..., your sister might need psychological help. Honestly that man sounds totally abusive (i mean for fuck sakes he took advantage of a defenseless TODDLER) He's probably abusing her, even if just emotianally, and tearing her down. No idea why she puts up with it, she may have hardcore self esteem issues or sumthing. Anyways.. she really needs to lose that dickface. He isnt good for anyone. You should be more mad at him then your sis.. i think she's an idiot for standing by him, but like i said, maybe you should check up on her and make sure her mental health is ok. Your an awesome uncle. I know you can be an awesome brother too :) hope things work out sweetie

*****Update: I do have a little update, not anything big but am wondering what the best thing to do would be.

My sister has been telling my mom that she misses me. She has been trying to make contact with me online. She wants me to see the kids. She is still with her gross pervert husband though. But they have a very bad marriage, as they had before. I refuse to have anything to do with her husband. I don't want to see him, I don't want to talk to him. I am very angry that my sister hid the whole situation and stood by the pervert, but I can put that aside in order to get to the solution. She has told my mother that she would come to my mother's house and bring the children. (My niece and nephew). My nephew has problems also. He gets night terrors. I am not sure my brother-in-law also molested him but it makes me wonder or I think that he might remember when my niece was being molested and her having nightmares and screaming. Not sure.

But, I just don't want my niece to think I don't want to see her. So I tell my mom that I will see the kids but not them. My sister says she will bring the kids to my mom's without her husband. But I don't think he will allow it. I need to help her!! What do I do? :(

femalep..., Thank you so much. Aww.. that makes me cry. I wish to be the "best aunt ever" but if I could be, I would have taken my niece out of her abusive home myself, somehow. I really would have but I figured that we would get found and I would look like I was crazy, rather than saving her and she would be put back with her sick perverted "father" anyway.

Through the years, I went over and over thinking of how things could have been if he actually got caught way back then and my niece would have been free from him (not of her memories of what he already did). You know I loved that song from 3DaysGrace but never saw the video until right now, so I never knew what it was about. It made me cry so much. Just to see a young child like that (totally reminding me of my niece) and the anguish that she must be going through and will go through. I hope that we will be reunited and that she will somehow be safe and away from him... but then reality checks in and she's only 9 years old now and she's still stuck with her father. She also now has a learning disability (dyslexia), no doubt this was a result of her trauma. I don't mean that all dyslexia is, but I do know that children who are abused often develop learning disabilities or have trouble in school. She has an occupational therapist (in the schoo, I think), who helps her. Maybe she will get close to her and reveal what has happened (or maybe is still happening to her)? I always hope something will happen, where the authorities will have no choice but to believe her about what happened. But then I get so sad because I know that her father is so good at hiding it and making her hide it and keep his awful secrets.

I keep praying though and hoping soon, soon....soon. I do know that even when she finally gets away from him and is safe, she will have a lifetime of emoitions that she will have to deal with. I want to be there for her and hope that I live a long long time to be there. I want to help her see that I have always believed her and always will. I want her to know that there are some that really do not accept and hide the horrible things that certain monsters do to children. From everything that happened, in her mind, I was the only one who believed her and fought for her.. but I failed and that's what tears me up so much.

Anyway, I did want to tell all of your who also hate these awful horrors of abuse that some do to children, thank you. When no one would listen, I felt very helpless and alone, wondering if anyone else hated these things and could see the badness of child abuse. It's good to know that there are many of you who do not accept this abuse and hide it (like my family has).

you are the best aunt ever. its totaly normal. i would never want 2 see them again. this is kinda like the song never too late from 3daysgrace.

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thank you so much! Your support means a lot and thank you for your suggestions. I will keep trying!!

Im so sorry this is happening to your niece and yourself. I can't believe your own sisters are treating you like this. I recommend writing a letter explaining the situation in great detail. Then send it to ALL law enforcement agencies located near your niece. Send it to CPS of course and other organizations that are designed to help sexual abuse victims. I would send it to all local newspapers. If any of the TV in your niece's area have a consumer advocate-type personality send it to them. This is exactly the type of stuff that they can help resolve. I have seen it work locally where i live and I know that if you work hard that someone or some agency/organization will do whatever it takes to stop this monster and his accomplices from hurting someone who cant defend herself. It makes me very upset thinking about your story..I want to take the law into my own hands for some justifiable payback and help protect someone who is unable to do so.

@stevenmichaelcollet, LOL.. I wish it was that easy to solve

just beat his ass ok? Thats all you gotta do

You are an amazing person and i really admire you for your courage

IT IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL, YOU ARE DOING WHAT YOUR HEART IS TELLING YOU TO DO, SINCE YOU KNOW THE TRUTH.... I SAY UNFORTUNATELY U HAVE NO CHOICE TO WAIT IM SURE YOUR NIECE WILL ASSOCITAE HERSELF WITH YOU LATER IN LIFE BECAUSE YOU WERE THE ONE WHO STOOD UP FOR HER... TRUST ME U ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING EVEN THO ITS DIFFICULT... FAMILY CAN BE VERY STRANGE SOMETIMES... I UNDERSTAND PEOPLE STAND UP FOR FAMILY MEMBERS BUT THEY SHOULDNT DO IT IF ITS HORRIBLE ACTS LIKE CHILD MOLESTING....
KEEP STAYING POSITIVE AND GOOD LUCK

This breaks my heart to hear about. my niece is very near that age, and I cant even imagine...... ugh.... I dont even want to think about it. God bless you for your strength and your integrity. I hope that somehow this gets made right, for your sake, your family's sake, and of course that poor little girl's sake.... god, i wanna cry now.... : (

You are a good person.

Hopefully what I am going to say might give you ideas about what to do in order to put him in jail and maybe the other members of your family covering this story up.

Although you might already know, it is not legal to plant a hidden camera into someone's home unless you have the permission from a judge, and even if it would catch something, I don't think it could be held against him, unfortunately (I could still be wrong).

Here might be a plan in order to help your niece, although it might be hard to pull off.

-> You live in United States, which each of them have their own ways of dealing with criminal stuffs. It might be a good idea to seek out which state has the most children abuse reported/going to court. I don't think that said state has more chilren abuse than others, it might just mean they investigate more and take those stuffs seriously. (Oklahoma might be good also because of this: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/155161.php )

- Once you know which state has the most child abuse, try to contact the police, or some children care services there and let them know about the rest of this plan.

- Then the idea would be to lure him, your sister and your niece in that state/city by either contacting someone who is related to his work in that state offering a job for him and giving a plane ticket (unfortunately that maybe you or your mother would have paid) for them to go meet the guy (which would most likely not even meet at all) or forge somekind of ''lottery'' they would have won to ''visit'' that state for a couple of days.

If you get someone that hears you in that states, then the only thing needed is to lure him there, which upon arrival he will be on another jurisdiction and might be arrested and they might investigate better.

I'm not sure if all of this could work out, and if it does, at least your sister(and maybe others) is liable to being his accomplice by shutting her daughter up in order to prevent her husband going to jail for what he has done.

If it would work through, then, if so you desire, I would seek to get the custody of my niece since it seems no one else want to protect her and for everything you would have done for her. After that, it would be in your niece's hands to forgive you for maybe putting both her parents in jail...but anyway, one day or another she will hate her father for having done this to her, and her mother for having not listened to her or protected her husband.

I can only hope that this plan is possible, that you can make it happen and that in the end, your niece will be in better care.

Good luck...to her.

I understand that the authorities aren't much help, they can only do something if you can prove it, but my wife works for the DHS, she is actually one of the people that take kids into custody when something like this happens, so i know a little about how it works. When you make a call like that to the DHS they are Required to open a case... regardless of past circumstances. If it was me, every month or so I would call in an anonymous complaint on the guy. They will have to investigate it... I would also pretend that everything is ok so you can convince the little girl to tell the social worker her story... they will listen to her even though she is so young... I know of them taking three year olds seriously. I would also talk to the counselor at her school, she will take you seriously too and would be required by law to contact the authorities. She might even be able to talk to the little girl or observe her. I would definitely talk to your mother and convince her that this little girl is being hurt and the pride of a child molester and the sister that enables him is worth nothing. Your sister is just as bad as he is for letting this happen to her daughter. She can face criminal charges for allowing her daughter to be raped. Absolutely do not try to protect her. If you, your mother, the school counselor, the little girl, someone anonymous, and anyone else you can think of to help all contact the DHS... they will have no choice but to take this matter seriously. If they close the case, wait a month and report it again. It doesn't matter how mad you make people or how much you inconvenience the DHS, that is their job... it sounds like you are the only one willing to try to protect this little girl from constant terror, so don't ever give up!!

Look, you need to hire a private detective or set up a secret camera where you think the abuse is happening.

You are totally normal for being mad and not wanting to associate with people that are doing horrible things.

hi just came across ur post sorry is it her dad or uncle? me and my sister were victims or it from our 2 brothers help her he will get her if u just sit bac i'm sorry your gonna feel sick about now i do he is an animal get in wit some big cop or some 1 deals wit it there was no 1 2 help me but she has u

i would castrate him if i could... i hate rapist especially chiled unless if the child wanted to have sexual relationship like i did when i was nine... i still do but none...want to because of my age.. :(

Your niece is very lucky to have a sweet and caring aunt like you!

Listen to me very, very carefully, because you need to make a decision here.

You need to consider the option of murdering that child rapist. I'm serious. Kill him. Don't bother trying to cover it up, because the attempt wouldn't be worth the trouble and would actually make things worse for you.

There are two things you need to consider when you're thinking about this murder. Does your state have the death penalty? I would consider a remote murder if so (cut brake lines, poison, something like that). You'll still get caught eventually, but it will be harder to trace. If you don't have capital punishment in your state, just knife the bitch.

Second, you need to be sure that your niece will testify to the fact that she'd been molested. The court can do all kinds of things to make sure her testimony isn't biased by threats from the family or perpetrator. You don't need her to say you didn't do it. You need her to say you had a reason.

And I'm dead serious about killing this motherfucker. If nobody's going to hold him accountable for what he's done, he's just going to do it again. He's probably doing it right now to another little baby in your family. Are you going to let him hang around so he can do it to your daughter? FUCK THAT BITCH.

Kill him. Most you'll do, especially if your niece testifies, is fifteen years. Are you willing to trade fifteen years of your life to keep the children in your family safe? I would be. I'd murder the motherfucker who touched my family member in half a heartbeat.

I would get a gun and...

what id do for real, ask her once when shes a little older and tell her the story, if she says she lied forgive every one, if she says she didnt, take the law into ur own hands, kill them and take her off to live somewere under the radar, like a cabin, catching fish and hunting for food and living off the land, one big camping trip u could say