Eye contact

I find it really hard as well. Sometimes, I FORCE myself to do it, because I know it must look weird that I'm staring somewhere else all of the time whilst talking lol...but I just look away just as quick, as if my eyes have been burned. It just feels very uncomfortable to me.

I've discovered that there are a few people I don't mind giving eye contact to, but they are my immediate family...

Sometimes I feel that way too.
I feel naked and vulnerable and exposed. And then people called me out on it, and I realized that doing this makes other people feel like they are unimportant and that I am not listening to them.

I now make a conscious effort to keep eye contact. It's difficult, and it doesn't seem to come as natural to me as it does to others, but after "practicing" for a few years now it's getting better.
Good luck!

your an awkward person. i bet you get nervous when the opposite sex talks to you. i know this cause i was once like you

I used to have problems with this, but after making a conscious effort to look people in the eye, eventually I got a bit better. It's just shyness. I noticed that when I didn't make eye contact with people, it made me seem weird and distant, so it was hard for me to make friends. But since I've been forcing myself to, practicing on people I am comfortable around (roomates, friends, etc), I've been much better at holding people's attention.

My friend hates this too.

I also do this.

But with certain people - not necessarily people i know very well, i am not afraid to get eye contact, what happened more recently is that i am not afraid of getting eye contact of girls i like, i just do it, i just look 'em in the eye, i mean, when they are looking in my eye why not look back, i even look a little when they doesn't look at me, and i doesn't get shy! So you simply need to force yourself to do it, after a while it will seems more normal.

One thing to keep on mind though, eye contact is most likely normal to the one you are talking too, they don't think what you think, so they wouldn't care if you use eye contact, just do it, it might be a little hard but they wouldn't mind! :)

I will go to amazing lengths to avoid eye contact, in school this was a problem :S

This shy girl I talked to, I expected her to dart her eyes around a lot, but impressively, she held eye contact for a good amount during the conversation, which lasted around 30 mins. Makes me somewhat attracted to her. If only she talked about less boring things :/

I completely agree with one_green!

It is essential for every aspect of your life, social growth, business in the modern western world.

In some cultures it is considered rude to look someone directly in the eye, I guess I can understand that... but not in the west.

In business, clients you make eye contact with will take you as trustworthy.

Men/Women you make eye contact with will think you honest and open and find you confident.

Parents will know you're not lying to them!!!

Although I am being kinda humourous, You probably need to do something about this because it could really hold you back.

Seeing a counselor or pyschologist would be a good step, especially if it is already holding you back...

And for the record, seeing one of those IS NORMAL too!!!

I don't think it is normal. Eye contact is the human being's way of connecting with other human beings. I think that people who are very, very shy or some who have certain disorders, such as Asperger's syndrome and autism, have problems making eye contact. It is not only normal, but is also important because I am afraid it will hold you back with social contacts, as well as work. You don't say if you are in school or not. If you are, I would encourage you to see your counselor. If you are not in school, you still should consider seeing a counselor or psychologist to get this worked out before it holds you back in life any further. Good luck.

some girls are so shy about it its crazy. I think you should do it as long as it doest interfere with other aspects of your life