Extremely shy but desperate for a relationship

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I am a very shy person, but I am desperate for a relationship with a guy. Yes, I'm talking about a boyfriend. I can go whole weeks without talking to boys (other than my brothers and this one extremely creepy guy who scares me). I find it very difficult to talk to them. And yes, I have tried "being myself" and "not caring what they think" countless times. I'm feeling hopeless of ever finding love, and getting married. What's the most effective option?

Wait it out and hope someone comes along 24
Make a tinder account 9
dress really skimpy to show off my body in attempt to attract guys 1
Date the creepy guy 6
Give up and hide in my house all day 1
become a nun or a cat lady 3
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  • DriftingAway
    9 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I too have felt like that perfect person never shows up, no matter what you try. Personally I think the best way to deal with this is to continue to work on being the person you want to meet. Yes it's terrible feeling, to feel lonely, wishing for someone with the same values and dreams to appear in your life, all filled with energy and positivity, ready to go explore life with you.

    I'm such a dreamer, haha.

    It's important that you never tell yourself that such a guy won't ever show up in your life. Have hope. Like thegypsysailor said, the best way to meet new friends and potential mates is to join up in activities you are really passionate about.

    If only there was a way to chat with you privately. I would have loved to give you more precise advices, if I had more details about your situation.

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  • Exotic_Dreamzz
    8 years ago

    I bet you get no cock. That's sad

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  • Zangyr
    9 years ago

    Since you're a girl the odds you will find a boyfriend are high.
    Shyness/Social Ankwardness is certainly not a turn-on in a girl (especially if you are not pretty to the point of being very remarkable) but try to be the same way when you are a guy -_-

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  • worriedgirlhere
    9 years ago

    You are basically me. I can't talk to guys without feeling strange and I tend to avoid them if I start sensing some sort of romance or intimacy. For now, I'm just planning to do things I like to do, not what I think others think is cool.
    Through this, hopefully I'll find a nice person that hopefully isn't already taken LOL.

    ....

    Sigh.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Chocolate fudge. Chocolate fudge fixes everything.

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    • Pineapplejuice
      9 years ago

      yet another excellent idea

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You didn't mention how old you are.
    It might help if you got into some new things. Try volunteering at a homeless or animal shelter, or join in activities you enjoy like hiking, biking, sailing or some such. Then the people you meet will have something in common with you and it will be easier to talk to/relate with, them.

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    • Pineapplejuice
      9 years ago

      YOO that's a good idea! Although I don't really have time for that :(

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