Excessive jealousy

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I'm an artist for more than 9 years. I've struggled with depression and panic attacks my whole teenager years, and nowadays it got less frequent thesea events.
But I've been with another problem now: jealousy.
I try convincing myself that I shouldn't be jealous of other artists and instead try to use their works as examples of what can I achieve if I work hard towards my objective. But everytime I try to swallow this fact, it's like I'm not fully accepting. It leaves still a little bit of pain and it's getting harder to ignore.
How can I deal with this feeling? I went to many psychiatrists and psychologists but pills and advices hasn't work effectly. Is it normal to feel such emotion and have no control of it, even working for years to be a better person?

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Why are you jealous? You can create your own great style if you want.

    Its nice that you appreciate the art of other people, but you can create your own great stuff.

    Are you really competitive?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Well, not really.
      Because I'm so afraid of people comparing my work to others, I barely show them to people.
      I'm really self-critical, so I can really notice not only mistakes I commit but also mistakes from others artists. Having such facility in finding these in other works, I always try to convince that nobody is perfect, but I still being jealous, no matter how hard I try to stop caring...
      I really don't know how this feeling began to disturb me, but I know I have this for a long time.

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        Its good we have many different people with many different art styles

        Its just opinion what somebody likes too :)

        People can definately like your stuff

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        You dont have to be perfect. Nobody starts off as a expert.

        You sure its not inspiration your feeling and not jealousy?

        Theres nothing wrong with liking or loving their art.

        They im sure had to work hard at becoming really good.

        You can become good too if you try! :) Theres no reason to feel negative towards them

        You should just like their art

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I think it's relatively normal for one to compare one's self to one's peers. A certain amount of jealousy is probably normal as well, but I suspect yours is probably more than excessive, and may even be torturous. You sound like the suffering artist type. Oftentimes creativity comes from a place of pain within ourselves; painful or not most artist types are passionate people who need to express themselves.

    I know you're more the artist type, but have you ever done any creative writing or just journaling? I think it would really help you to start writing down your feelings in a journal of some sort. Maybe when you're feeling especially upset you can channel your emotions into some more abstract pieces of work.

    What helps for me a lot is yoga, prayer, meditation, aromatherapy, a nice warm bath and sometimes I do journal or even write bad poetry, etc.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Sometimes I write a few stories, most of them being abandoned in the middle of the way. I write a few journals when I feel like...
      I practice yoga since last year and sometimes it helps me, but I don't feel it's enough.
      I'm trying to go back to the psychologist to find a solution...

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Wow!

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    There is no good or bad art, only different styles and methods. Try to focus on your own creations, you wouldn't want a style merger would you?
    My personal artistic hero is Aaron Blaise, he worked on Brother Bear as well as many other animal based movies.

    I don't do art myself, but I have a few friends who are in the artistic business. One can draw a photo realistic building or machine to a T and the other draws cartoon ducks. Both put in about the same time into their work, and make the same money, though some would say the realism always trumps the cartoon, but when asked which piece they favored, ducks in tuxes always won out.

    Art is a creative process, there are no mistakes, just happy little accidents.

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  • ojimpu
    6 years ago

    I'd stay away from the source if I were you. And yes this is normal, the sensation feels weird huh?

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    The pain is rooted deep inside you, and you have to address it if you want to stop the anxiety. Check out selfauthoring(dot)com and write it down. A lot cheaper than booking a psychiatrist.

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