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Exboyfriend Drank 3-4' beers, couple glasses of wine and 3-4 whiskey and cokes EVERY night for 5 years. He now only drinks a six pack a night. He hates drinking everynight but wont stop or get help. He says it is not a problem but it ended our relationship. Is that normal?
If the alcohol lead to you splitting up, then it meant more to him than you did. Now you need to move on.
He is an alcoholic, I'm sure you know that. It's sad because I know what its like to date one and watch them destroy themselves, and see all the problems the drinking causes in every aspect of their life, and not be able to do anything about it because THEY have to want to change. Until then, there's nothing you could do even if you wanted to, and I'm sorry it broke up your relationship. Just know that you did everything you could.
Thank you....you are right! Would you mind reading my other question and giving me your opinion? You seem down to earth and cool.
I dated a guy over a year that wears women's panties. I knew from the beginning. I later found out he wears bras and other lingerie. I also found out that he likes diaper sex and responded to a gay posting on craigslist...which he lied about. He drinks every night, has left me over and over again but always comes back. He swears he is straight. Is it normal? He has brain washed me into thinking I need help. Please honest opinions. Thank you!
I personally am very open minded about "strange" fetishes. They might not be my preference, but I'll adapt to them to an extent. (nothing illegal of course.) So its not that guy's fetishes that bother me, its the alcoholism and the fact that he's lying to you and and keeps breaking up with you. That is not a stable or healthy relationship. HE is the one who needs help. Don't let him convince you otherwise! This whole thing bothers you for a very VERY legitimate reason. Even if you forgave the lying, overlooked the fetishes and looked the other way about the drinking, the fact remains that he keeps hurting you over and over, and obviously does not know what he wants. You deserve better than that!
Thanks shinyglitterdoll.....you are right. The leaving and coming back was horrible. What was worse....my father has stage 4 cancer and this man said to me "stop playing the dying dad card" when I couldn't hang out with him. WTH! Also had a 3 hour verbal lashing cause my guy friend emailed me, in which I was honest about. I asked "is this the way you treated your ex wife"? He responses "NO, much worse...you don't even want to know". Both episodes he was dead sober, doesn't even get drunk cause of tolerance level. I feel sorry and want to warn the next girl. But who I feel really sorry for is his children who he is not always nice to, at all. But who I don't feel sorry for is ME and my daughter cause I got out. Now I just hope I can heal mentally.....therebis so much to my story than I want/can post here but thanks for listening.
haha you remind me of a chick i use to flat with her ex boyfriend was like this too, i knew of him before i even met her and i watched him try and open a bottle of wine in town break the top of the bottle yet continue to drink out of it lol. he was a fool and so was she
Thanks Emilydoll forbthe advice, but he doesn't think he has a problem and won't go....I can't force him. His fathered died of alcoholism and his 2 brothers are recovered alcoholics.
Why don't you take him to an AA meeting I'm your area, don't want him to get liver problems horrible painful life