Everywhere i look there are babies, iin?

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my name is j. 18 years old.
1 year ago i was pregnant but i lost my daughter,
the last few months all ive been able to think about is babies. last week i recieved text messages from some chick saying she was pregnant with my boyfriends baby. and it is getting to me

my partner is only 16 but he is very mature. he wants to start a family but not until he is financially and mentally secure enough to prepare for a child. but even with our age gap, i still feel im ready for a baby.

3 years ago i spent 10 months in hospital with severe staph infections and was told i might not be able to carry a child to full term and that the risks of the childs mortality would be high. and i have osteoarthritis and might be in a wheelchair by the age of 35. i dont want anything to happen to my possible children but i really want to be a mum. well technically i am a mother to my little girl. but i want to raise my child and watch him/her grow up. i want the struggles of terrible 2's and so on.

my question to you is, am i still grieving for my daughter and letting the grief make me obsessed with children or do i actually want a baby?

i just need to know what is normal in this situation. im really confused.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You would love an adopted child just as much as if you had given birth to it. Don't ever let that put you off. However, social workers will want you to be a sensible age and have enough money to raise it.

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    Pregnancy has caused hormonal changes in you. You should seek out medications to help alleviate this.
    You said that you do not want anything (bad) to happen to your children. Apart from the risks to the fetus during pregnancy, there are other problems that you did not touch on. If you have had severe staphylococcus infections and osteoarthritis, you will be passing these inherited characteristics to your children. Do you want your child to go through the same medical problems that you have?
    Have you considered adoption instead?

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    • jamyelee1993
      12 years ago

      i have thought about adoption but knowing it is not my child would hurt. i would love the child no matter what and i wouldnt treat it any other way. i just really want my own babies. and about my health the staph was not inherited i got it after having a wooden splinter in my leg. but i can understand where you are coming from thanks

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  • bighead88
    12 years ago

    I feel that yes its normal to want a baby Bt one yo boyfriend(regardless of age) sound so full of Shyt to me talk bout wen he financially situated before he hav a child cuz if talkin bout a girl say she pregnant wit his baby he obvisouly out their fuckin bare wit out a care in the world(protect yourself)
    And I dont feel that he's yo potential baby father canadiate ......shoot they ( doctor) that it wud be hard for to get pregnant and to keep the baby Bt the Lord bless me a beautiful baby girl .....just keep faith in the Lord n next thing u know your ankles gon be swollen

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    • jamyelee1993
      12 years ago

      thank you. but his mistress was all a hoax from someone that i know. he is becoming my stalker. my partner has never cheated on me and i believe him.

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      • bighead88
        12 years ago

        Welcome .believe wateva u want. But all I care about is you protecting yourself and your partner

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