Everything feels wrong...

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my mom hates my dad so much.. yeah.. they're divorced (got divorced on my 9th birthday) (im 17 now)
my dad hasnt had a girlfriend in ages and he has one now... basically my mom hates her and she cant stand her as it is.
my dad lives in a low-income apartment, and his per-say "neighbors" are the nastiest people i've ever seen.
He gets a monthly check from the government. (The check is literally only $16) Yes. you heard me. $16 dollars a month.
Thats 1 loaf of bread, and some lunch meat i guess? How is someone supposed to live a whole month on $16!?
(by the way, my dad has worked since he was 14. He's 42 now) He recently just got laid off and he had to move out of his house, his car got repossessed,
HE'S barely making it as it is.. :'/
My mom told me how she went to court today to file some "charge" against him because he hasnt paid child support since i was 10.
And the courts going to garnish his $16 check every month.
(in basic terms, they're going to take some money out of the $16 every single month...)
Its upsets me so much.. my mom knows he has nowhere to go if he gets kicked out of the apartments. no money, no car, no job, no internet to LOOK for a job,
and no food.

Where else is he supposed to go?

I asked her if she just wanted my dad to die and she said "No, but he's going to start being a father"
Then i started crying and went to my room.
ITS NOT LIKE my moms poor. SHES A DOCTOR! and my step-dad is THE MANAGER of a Steel Mill!
I got a car for my 16th birthday, i have an iPad, a Samsung Galaxy S3, a laptop and tons of other stuff.

Why does it seem like people who deserve money, cant get it, but people who don't deserve money always have it? :/
My dad is the kindest man ive ever met in my entire life!
I would die for him.
He had a heart attack when i was 11, but thankfully he was revived.
3 months ago, on my birthday (i wasnt expecting anything from him, i wanted him to keep his money and save it up.)
I came to his apartment and he was sitting at a little table he has and he bought a birthday cake for me
That said " I love you bud, Happy 17th Birthday."
Gosh.. i love him so much and ya know, whenever you hear your kid tell you to keep your money.. im sure you feel like shit..
I swear my dad is the best man in the whole world.
He's my all-time hero, my role model, and my rock.

Is it normal for me to feel like this?

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Based on 40 votes (37 yes)
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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    All I know about your character is that you seem to be very humble and caring. You have a good heart.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Aww *sniffle* why don't you help him find a job? Take him for coffee or something and bring your laptop and job hunt.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    There are certain terms for different types of government assistance. Sometimes, in order to receive assistance, you have to not work. Otherwise, I agree you can help him look for a job, or even new housing.

    But your father could contest in court that she is more than capable of caring for you, and hr can't afford child support. Also, maybe you should have a sit down, remind her that, regardless of THEIR problems, he is still your father, and is still a human being. If you're 17, child support runs out when youre 18 anyway. Ask her what shes trying to accomplish - she doesn't need the extra $4 she'll get from him. Is she trying to get back for the divorce? Maybe you should discuss it with your step-dad, he may help you communicate your sadness to your mom in a way she'll better understand.

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  • memmo16
    11 years ago

    I like you. You are very caring. :D

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I hope things work out for your dad.

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  • Call.me.Curious
    8 years ago

    Just an idea, if you want him to have money, you could sell your car, and give him the money. And he can look for jobs in the newspaper too.

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  • Prince_of_Crows
    11 years ago

    If it goes to court and you have to testify, just make sure you tell the judge this stuff. Most normal people will see that your mother is being unreasonable.

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  • abominus566
    11 years ago

    i can see your problem, i havew a father different but simalar to yours. if he is in a situation like this the court will show mercy as he doent have money at this point. but when he gets it eventually by doning what ever he wants or decideds to do then payments have to start. i know cause my mom had to go through the courts for it once and she ended up telling me all the rules pertaining to that

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  • Kaory182
    11 years ago

    It's completely normal for you to feel that way. If I was in a situation like yours I would be soooo depressed. In the mean time just help your dad get a job by searching for jobs online. Help him apply for government assistance such as food stamps for now and any other type of assistance.
    Is sad that your mom is so heartless and refuses to offer him some help. Even if he hasn't been paying child support his still your father. She should let him stay with you guys temporarily until he gets back on his feet. It wouldn't hurt anyone.

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    Kind =/= good with money, unfortunately.
    Maybe try to help him out with either the job search or just trying to manage finances? Dirtybirdy's suggestion was good.

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