Ever since i was a little boy i knew i was born the wrong gender

I have a friend that, at the age of two, cried whenever given anything with the smallest ruffle to wear. Who in first grade, told a girl her name was John and kissed her on the cheek. She wore only guy clothes from about 7 and has had short hair forever. In home videos she walked around shirtless with shorts and enunciated in a boyish way. She played with GI Joe and Power Rangers.

Her mother always knew she should have been a he. She would cry at night wondering why, if there was a god, god would put a boy in the body of a girl. She was very accepting, a great mother indeed.

Today my friend is a man. He is a great man at that. He is a very dear friend of mine. No, his name isn't John. :)

You have to be you. If your parents won't accept you, you don't have to accept them. You are their child. It really says something about a parent who won't love you unconditionally. Whether you are their son or daughter shouldn't make a difference. You are you regardless of what they want you to be.

Good luck! Hope you do what feels right!

These comments are pretty amazing. Maybe it's the time of night (at least where I am), but there isn't a single malicious comment here! Some offer resources, some offer offer conversation, and some offer simple support. I'm sure by dawn the bigots and trolls will file in, but until then, this made me happy.

I'd like to offer my support as well. It's normal. I think you know that this isn't something you can push aside for the sake of complying with societal standards. Coming to terms with it and revealing these feelings to others will be difficult, but this is the way you feel, and it's not your fault that it's not what most people feel.

Hopefully you have someone you can confide in, or someone you know will love you regardless. Whether or not you do, there are other places you can go to get support and talk to other people who feel the same way. Believe it or not, there are people who know how you feel. I have a few transgendered friends myself, a few of which simply like to cross-dress. They're awesome. It's normal.

Anyway, good luck to you. I hope it all works out.

I know how it feels. It went for years thinking I was a male. Then, I realized that I'm androgynous. I know your situation is different, but trust me I know how you feel. It was my biggest "secrete" and everyday I lived in fear and confusion. My family wouldn't let me properly cross dress and that caused me more problems. Then, one day my mother somehow found out about it. Things got so awkward and she got depressed. Then, my grandmother started going on about how she wanted grandkids and forced me to tell her that I was going to have four kids and I had to come up with a type of man I liked. My mother even looked up on the sugary and started asking me "questions" in response to that and it caused me more stress. For most of my life, I had been hearing "voices", that told me I was a guy and I thought they were my own.... A few years ago, they finally stopped saying those things to me and on that subject, they say it very rarely now.

The whole thing was traumatic and I felt so vulnerable. I when for about more years thinking I was a guy. Before all that I wrongly told my grandmother that I "felt like a boy". She told me that life was hard sometimes and that I had to toughen up. Then, for the life of me I told her that as a kid I "kissed" a female friend. She started going on about religion and how it was wrong and then kept asking me if I "liked it". She wouldn't stop so I said "kinda". Then, she traumatized me and said all this bullshit about god!

I've been traumatized. I still fight with my family on what I can and can't wear. If I had it my way, I would mainly only wear guy clothes, but with the occasional exceptions. I know it's hard. If you think they won't support you, don't tell them. But if you told them, at least you could get it of off your chest. Can you tell a close friend? Someone who you know will give you the support you need. Don't let others stop you from being you.

Good luck and keep me updated:)

god dosent make mistakes

Greetings and HIGH HEELS...
I'm a long time married crossdresser with a very supportive, accepting, supportive, kowledgeabl;e and helpful wife who has taught me all the traits to emulate women - from presentation, to walking, standing, sitting, mannrisms, make up, hair, nails etc, and from this, I've a very extensive, including 42 pair of HIGH HEELS (and I do mean HIGH), and all of this for me, is a lifestyle, and not a hobby, nor a passing fancy / whim.
If at any time you'd casre to chat, I'm on Yahoo Mesenger a lot... My e mail is [email protected] Hope to hear..
Regards,
Rachelle In High Heels

This is absolutely normal. It sounds as though you are transgendered, and you should embrace this!

I would talk to your partner about how you feel, if she doesn't know about this integral part of who you are, then she isn't really dating you (I say you here as in the you that you are suppressing, redundant, i know).

Any partner who is worth your time will be understanding and loving, and since she loves you, and you are the woman who you identify as whether you transition or not, then your gender really should not change how she feels about you.

Coming out as a woman will be difficult, I can guarantee that. This being said, can you see yourself being truly happy in the closet? What I said about your partner applies to your family also: your gender does not change who you are as a person, your quirks, your traits, your likes or dislikes, etc.

This is getting a tad rambly, so I will just say that you should look into local resources for transgendered people, or join a group wherein you can express yourself and be surrounded by like-minded people.

Best of luck.

Ps I'm a Nikki too :)))

Who cares about calling yourself a boy or a girl. You are a boy, obviously, but you are feminine or feminized. There is nothing wrong with that. It is who you are. So stop thinking about being a girl. Accept yourself for being a man. But a feminine one. You are yourself. Do not give yourself a definition. :) good luck!!! <3

Look here young man I am the same I am 53 and Marie's I have a son and 2 daughters and I wished I was a girl
I don't dress like a girl but I see then and I envy them I have an ear ring and I have a pink blanket witch my girls tease me with my favorite color is pink. I am not gay but I even look a how cute some guys are
I want so bad to dress up in a girls pink shorts and pink shirt and go out in the public but I can't. I know I was born the wrong gender but I have to live with it.

This is kind of a tough one. You need to do what feels right! I know it has to be difficult to reveal this to your loved ones but stay strong. No matter how you dress, you are still a wonderful person I'm sure!

Hey everyone thank you all so much for the amazing sweet comments. I was so afraid to check what had been said to my question because i was afraid everyone would be rude and malicious.

The support means so much to me. It really is helping me to come to terms with who i am and what i am. Im still smiling ear to ear, i totally thought i was going to get trolled.

Thanks again everyone :)

While I personally dont feel this way, Id say you hav every right to be happy and be yourself. Even if youself is a girl in a guys body :)

Well it depends on if you honestly want to be a girl physically, or if youre content with being a cross dresser.If you want to be fully female physically, I think you should go for it.

It's kinda cool, like you a transformer or something :P

That must be a difficult situation, I am sorry to hear you are going thru this. If you feel like crap as a guy and are convinced you need to be a woman I would first see a therapist. Not because you're are insane but it could help you to realize some stuff you didn't now about yourself and become more confident in you as a lady. As for you family and gf, one day you will have to tell 'em. Nothing is worse then faking who you are: hiding in plain sight. Of course approaching them the right way will help. Stressing the fact that this is the way you are, you didn't choose to be like this its just biology: chemicals in your brain.

I hope that helps. Get back to me and tell me how things go

You are transgender, it's normal.

It's called being transgender - if you google it, there's tons of resources, especially since you're male-to-female.
Not so many resources for those of us who are famele-to-male.

And hey... take the fact you knew at a young age as a blessing. I didn't figure out why I was so miserable until after high school.

Follow ur heart