Ever since i lost her, i still feel empty inside after all these years

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Had someone in my life who was my everything. We weren't together but I loved her and we were close friends a very long time ago. She left to go be with a looser and ever since (approx 5 yrs ago) I feel like something is missing. The love I had for her was unexplainable & I know I'll never feel this way again. I pretend I'm happy on the outside people think I'm happy go luky type. Honestly I feel theres no point in life, its not the same and never will be. Unfortunately if I could reverse the clock and stop her from being in my life to stop this pain I would have. You can tell me to grow up! Move on ! There's plenty of other fish in the sea blah blah blah. Its still not the same, as it won't be her. Life is dull and it sucks! is it normal to feel this way ?

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Based on 35 votes (26 yes)

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

Of course your life is over and you'll never meet anyone better. It is all so damn pointless because you are the loser sitting home crying about what not only never will be, but really what never was.
This whole thing is in your mind. She may have been a friend, but from what you say she was never your gf and most likely wasn't ever going to be.
So, you've wasted 5 YEARS of your life lying to yourself. Don't you think that's enough? You may honestly believe your life is over, boring or whatever, but that's only because YOU make it that way. You have choices and not one single one of them has anything to do with that girl. Grow a backbone.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah she was a friend and she told me all the time that she loved me heaps etc. We would have amazing hugs & it felt like we had a real bond. You would understand my feelings if you were in my shoes mate.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    We've all loved and lost; MOVE ON!
    
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  - flamer180
    
    8 years ago
    
    If you want her that bad, you shouldnt give up on her.
    Guys are supposed to do the chasing anyway. That was the normal way back in the oldern days. These days, you have wack jobs believing in aliens without proof, believing they're cats, and thinking that PC is the right style of life lol
    
    If you want her, I say dont give up on her. Whats her name anyway? Im curious
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Well I have been chasing her in a way for a while. I'm not a guy either which complicates things. Sorry I can't give out her name . I believe in aliens, they're a legit creature. I agree with the fact that guys are supposed to do the chasing but they dont lol
      
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      - flamer180
        
        8 years ago
        
        Your a chick?
        N thats fine. How can you believe in aliens without proof? Side question though XD haha
        
        yea, there are more guys these days becoming feminized, which is not always bad, but to the point where the guy cant do certain stuff a guy is supposed to be able to do
        
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xxemi_rosexx

8 years ago

All these people keep saying grow up, or move on. But i feel you bro. I'm a lesbian and I've been on and off with my girl for 10 months. we have been together for over 6 months. whenever i dont have her i feel as though something is missing and i always go back. as if im blinded by this love.

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green_boogers

8 years ago

Hey man, sorry for the rejection she caused. And, I see you are getting lots of condescending comments here. Seems like you are having difficulty establishing closure. Sometimes, it helps to write a goodbye note to your ex. (But DON'T send it to her.) don't hold back, get everything down on paper.

Also try googling up "How to Let Go of a Relationship that Ended Without Closure". There's stuff out there that should help.

And remember. Get your fingers snapping and your toes tapping.

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Hamburger.Slim

8 years ago

6 months, 2 weeks, 4 days,
and I still don’t know which month it was then
or what day it is now.
Blurred out lines
from hangovers
to coffee
Another vagabond
lost to love.

4am alone and on my way.
These are my finest moments.
I scrub my skin
to rid me from
you
and I still don’t know why I cried.
It was just something in the way you took my heart and rearranged my insides and I couldn’t recognise the emptiness you left me with when you were done. Maybe you thought my insides would fit better this way, look better this way, to you and us and all the rest.
But then you must have changed your mind
or made a wrong
because why did you
leave?

6 months, 2 weeks, 4 days,
and I still don’t know which month it was then
or what day it is now.
I replace cafés with crowded bars and empty roads with broken bottles
and this town is healing me slowly but still not slow or fast enough because there’s no right way to do this.
There is no right way to do this.

There is no right way to do this.

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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Okay sugar, I'm sorry for your heartbreak, and I'm sure most of us have been there even if people are too busy trolling you, but my question to you is what are you doing to help yourself? You need to do whatever you can to move on with your life, because this stagnation is killing you, and you know it.

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KingTermite

8 years ago

Is it normal to feel this way?

Sure, if that's how you feel. Now then: grow up! Move on ! There's plenty of other fish.

Or wallow in it and see how far that gets you. Whatever, mate, it's your life... or lack thereof.

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Steve_2

8 years ago

"She left to go be with a *loser"

Meanwhile, you're sitting around sobbing yourself dry over something stupid and trivial like this. I wonder who the REAL loser is?

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- Arm0se
  
  8 years ago | pl
  
  The guy who sits on IIN all day, thinking he's the hottest shit ever because he spends his time judging people from his mother's basement.
  
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  - PlebolaVirus
    
    8 years ago
    
    I've been living alone for 5 years, and I don't have a basement, so no.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      He wasn't talking to you !
      
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      - PlebolaVirus
        
        8 years ago
        
        I'm the same user.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        With multiple accounts obviously.. Dude u gave yourself away!
        
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slimthick

8 years ago

It's normal to have feelings like these after a break up
You know you should move on though, UNLESS you're planning to win her back

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zachary.tailor

8 years ago

The other guy probably finished high school and knew how to spell.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I'm sorry that I CBF typing properly when I'm in distress.
  
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Ever since i lost her, i still feel empty inside after all these years