Enjoying the mystery of a potential relationship.

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*Relationship story, so skip it if you don't like it and please be nice.

I am quite enjoying the process of making a connection with this girl that is in a few of my college classes right now (we have the same major is why).

I think that she is pretty and seems like a smart and intellectual type of person. I don't know a whole lot about her, but she seems interesting to me. I just can't stop thinking about her either! She laughs at the stupid funny things that I say or joke about and seems to get along with me. I have been kind of "interrogating" (lol) her in a way by asking her a question about herself about once a day and trying to just be friendly and talkative to her; just generally trying to show interest (which IS an effort for me). I guess you could call it flirting, but I haven't blatantly said that i like her as more than just friends or anything like that yet although I am certain that she suspects it because she subconsciously blurted out a comment that implied that I liked her one day, and I of course playfully denied it in a joking sort of way.

I don't expect anything out of the relationship right now, nor do I know how it will turn out. I am just really absolutely loving the mystery aspect of the whole situation so far. From both her side and my side, neither one of us absolutely knows what will happen and that is fascinating to me. I don't really care if she doesn't like me as more than just friends (or even just casual acquaintances or classmates) or already has a boyfriend or doesn't want/isn't interested in dating right now, it's just whatever for me I feel like. Is it normal? Have any of you had this type of experience? If so please share! Thanks for reading :)

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  • awerfgaerg
    12 years ago

    "It is often more fun to want something than to have it."

    - David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest

    I'm in a similar situation. I could probably be more carefree about it though; I'm going mad.

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  • TareBear20
    12 years ago

    The only part I find abnormal, is that you could care less of the outcome.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thank you for your input.

      It's not so much that I don't care. I do care, and I am certainly hopeful. I just don't absolutely expect anything(everything) out of the relationship right now. It's kind of a defensive move, really, to prevent me from getting my feelings hurt if things don't turn out right. I've just been hurt a few times before and don't really want to go through that again. I just can't let my guards down so easy, you know?

      I really think that this sort of nonchalance is helping me enjoy the possibilities more. It's helping me be myself a little more and not worry so much what the other person thinks(which is difficult for me to do), and that is an important part of developing relationships I think.

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      • TareBear20
        12 years ago

        I agree. I've been hurt as well and just started a new relationship myself. I've been very distant, because I don't want to get hurt again. I completely understand where you are coming from. ^_^

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    That sounds healthy of you.

    Not many people take it slow these days; they want what they want and they want it RIGHT NOW.

    Hopefully, she doesn't mind your nonchalance and doesn't mistake it for disinterest.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thank you for the compliment! I don't think she thinks I'm disinterested, but I really don't know what she thinks and that's one of the reasons I am enjoying it so much I think. Anyways, I don't want to think to much into the relationship. I just want to take it one day at a time :)

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