Embarrassment from comprehension problems

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I've often had a hard time understanding certain things. Basically, if I'm not personally interested in something, I find it extremely difficult to understand it (like math or politics), but I'm ok when it comes to things I like (such as animals or watching crime shows).

But whenever I don't understand something, people always point it out and explain it to me, and I get really embarrassed. I feel like I'm being treated like a child, and I don't like it when people explain things to me when I didn't ask for it. How can I be kind in responding to that? Or should I just ignore it? I just feel like I'm being talked down to and I don't like it.

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  • litelander8
    9 months ago

    I’m trying to figure out out to buy a car from a person and put it in my name. And I’ve read the instructions on DMV like 8 times and don’t understand. Lol. Very normal.

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  • DrPissenschitz
    9 months ago

    Back in 2020 I had a coworker who didn't know who was running for president on either side. I envy that level of political ignorance

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  • Tinybird
    9 months ago

    same with me. Especially with autism, I only like to focus on my special interests, whatever it be at the time, because everything else becomes boring and mundane.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 months ago

    I think that's normal. It's always easier to learn something you feel passionate about. Although it's a bit unsettling that you are passionate about crime.

    I know it's hard to talk to people when they act like they are better than you because they know something you don't. Just do your thing. I find a lot of people who talk politics don't really know what they are talking about anyway. They aren't worth your energy.

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  • imnotnormal555
    9 months ago

    I think it's totally normal. I do the same thing. If a book is boring, I have a hard time reading and comprehending it. If a subject is boring, I just zone out. If people talk down to you for not knowing whatever it is they think you should know because they find it interesting, feel free to tell them to shut the fuck up and make you a sandwich!!

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  • Ummitsstillme
    9 months ago

    I wish more smart people were victims online

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  • Anonnet
    9 months ago

    Heck, I wish people did that for me when I didn't understand things. Every time I didn't understand something, I got a shake of the head and a view of their back. Being talked down to would have been preferable to me.

    Just assume the other person means well. They aren't treating you like a child, they're just trying to help. Nobody knows everything, and sometimes you're going to be the person explaining something to someone else. Calm down.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 months ago

    Do you have ADHD?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 months ago

      I've never been tested but I don't think I do. Nothing really inhibits my daily life

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 months ago

        I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD yet, but the trouble with learning in subjects you're not interested in is a trait of ADHD. I have always had trouble learning, and paying attention in math, politics can and do bore me to tears, and my eyes glaze over if I have to pay attention in any sort of business meeting. I always did well in liberal arts, and humanities. My favorite classes in school were English, and History, but I used to get in trouble in reading class when I was in elementary, because I had a hard time paying attention whenever other kids were reading out loud in class, especially if they did it poorly. I did at least make straight A's in band.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 months ago

          Not to undermine what you said, but I think 'ADHD' is too commonly (and easily) thrown around. What you explained sounds pretty normal to me, it is hard to pay attention to something you're not interested in. I think a true problem would lead to difficulties in daily life, and then it would be more in like with a disorder. I knew someone diagnosed ADHD and they struggled to accomplish most things in their life, such as grocery shopping, finding their keys and wallet, showing up on time to appointments, etc. and I have none of those issues

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 months ago

            Good point.

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