Either i'm wacked or they're wacked, but i don't care.

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Apparently my family sees themselves as the masters of my life. I bring home a guy I like and it's "we hate him, you need to dump him." I marry a man with whom I fall apart and out of love especially after he hurt me, but everyone else thinks he's a great guy (which he is, but just not a great guy for me) so it's "you can't divorce him, we like him, you are a horrible selfish person." is this just my family? I've decided I just don't care. I'm the one in the relationship not them so i'm gonna do what's right for me. Does that make me a selfish person?

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  • MaestroJohan
    12 years ago

    It's perfectly normal on both sides of your argument. When in a relationship, although you are the main participant, your partner is also a part of your families life. It's not uncommon for families to want a say in it's members lives, like I'm sure you've given your input into theirs. Just remember that the decision is ultimately yours to make, and although they can say what they want the decision will affect you the most.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    I hate your family

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  • --ash--
    13 years ago

    Remember, till death do we depart! Suck it up, you've got a while to go.

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  • DefJay
    14 years ago

    As you said: You're the one in the relationship and if you dont feel well than divorce him. It's better than to lie to him, your family and yourself.

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  • 100andrew
    14 years ago

    Maybe you're wrong and theyre right.

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    • insanityatitsfinest
      14 years ago

      Maybe you're one of them..... o.O

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  • mercyful
    14 years ago

    If he hurt you dump him.Who cares what your family thinks? It's your life.

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  • Anywho
    14 years ago

    whats wrong with being selfish? someone has to take care of YOU - there are healthy levels of being selfish, sounds to me like you're in the right state of mind. Get the divorce.

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  • Hotdogvendor
    14 years ago

    I should add, it is possible your family is religious and that could be the reason, but it could equally be depression, the structure of their upbringing, or a thousand other reasons. The possiblilty isn't worth insulting every religious person who reads this post, especially with such a pointless, judgmental and unexplained post which doesn't help you out at all.

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    • insanityatitsfinest
      14 years ago

      My mother has actually told me that she was going to have me thrown into a mental hospital. I brought this up to my father and he laughed and said "well, personaly I always thought your mother was the one who needed to be in a mental hospital" right now her thing is to insist that I am bipolar. There has to be a mental condition that makes people think everyone else who disagrees with them has a mental problem. She is actually doing the same thing to my youngest sister. She will deny having ever been seen herself for mental problems, but she has. In fact I think i'll make a seperate post about this "IIN if a person insists that everyone who disagrees with them is insane?" as for me, I assure you I am perfectly sane. The only reason why my username is "insanity at it's best" is because I am mocking the fact that my mother keeps insisting that I am insane. I said "if living by my own standards makes me insane, then I don't want to be sane"

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  • Hotdogvendor
    14 years ago

    Don't listen to schumacher he's probably just a kid figuring out what he believes. There are a lot of people like him on the internet picking fights with people who really don't care, because they mistakenly percieve all religious people as the enemy. And this is coming from an athiest.

    I think your family are controlling, and you're completely normal in wanting them to support you, not condemn you. They have no right to mess with your life and tell you what to do, and if you can't convince them to stop it I'd leave them alone or just keep your private life as seperate from their's as possible. The truth is you're probably not going to be able to change them, they feel entitled to make your judgments for you, and probably mock your decisions to try to make you cave in to their way of thinking.

    To sum up - they don't know or don't want to hear the full story, they don't have the right to judge but they do it anyway, and they usually take the other side. Sounds like the sort of toxic relationship you should stay away from.

    I feel your pain, if that makes a difference. Good luck, and don't let them make you feel bad about yourself or your decisions, they're yours to make!

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    • insanityatitsfinest
      14 years ago

      Exactly, thank you. I happen to be very catholic, so is my father and grandmother. They have their opinions, but mostly, they just care that i'm safe, happy, and taken care of. When I make decisions I know they will disapprove of I stop making calls or recieving them and just send them hints through texts and picture messages that i'm ok till i'm ready to talk. It's my mother and sister who like to pretend they are the masters of my life. If it's not their way, it's the wrong way. My sister is only 16, but feels she is all grown up and knows enough about life to criticize me. My mother is christian, but she doesn't practice her religion like I do mine and has no where near as much religious education as I do so she sounds retarded when she says "you are a horrible, selfish person, you need to read the bible!" like, for real! "b%%$ch, I could recite half that bible to you by heart and you wouldn't even know what the hell I was talking about! Why don't you give it a try! matthew 7:1-5"

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  • zackman5000
    14 years ago

    Do what you think is right not what your parents think. THEY sound like selfish people not you dont beat yourself up about it. =)

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  • schumacher
    14 years ago

    christian family i'm guessing.
    if not then still heavily religious.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    That makes you a survivor. Stand up to your family, tell it like it is and they will come around.

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