Double standards

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There are certain things other people do that I absolutely hate. For example lying, or heavy drug use.
However if it's someone I otherwise really like who is doing it, I make an exception for them. I let them know what I think, but I also don't hate them or refuse to associate with them, like I would someone who I just met doing those things.
But when it's someone I actually care about and I find out they are doing something I hate, I tend to forgive them but let them know I do not approve of what they did.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    When you have invested time into someone, it's normal to want to recoup that investment. Giving up on them immediately would be irrational.

    That's what Sheldon would say....

    Simple answer tho, when we like/love someone we want what's best for them, and want to see them happy.

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      Makes sense. Sometimes someone I like will do something I hate and would normally judge another person harshly for and not want to be around them, so it leaves me conflicted when someone I already like does it. Typically I will forgive them and let them know what I think. The only time I seem to not forgive them is if it was something that horribly effected me or my life, but most other stuff I can get over.

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        We are all going to do increadibly stupid things in our life. Best thing to do is be forgiving and hope the grace is returned to us. 😊

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        • [Old Memory]
          5 years ago

          One of the many reasons I love you! 😘

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        • [Old Memory]
          5 years ago

          I never do stupid things. :)

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          • nikkiclaire
            5 years ago

            I do them all the time 🤓🤓

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  • Mehereok1
    5 years ago

    Think we all do it, like it or not. I've had a few of my female friends ask for (or worse, expect) financial help, and have helped all of them, but, would be lying if I said didn't give more to the hotter ones than others. There are other reasons for that, but, of the few I've helped, it didn't hurt that 2 were hot, resulting in more cash or direct bill paying help than the other, ok but not as hot one. With one who'd ask often, I did help her, but, directly..She was hot, and always needed "gas money", which my mind didn't believe as often as she said needed it, so..I'd put gas directly into her car myself. Didn't trust her to actually use the cash for gas. But, she was hot, so I helped her.

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  • fakeaccount3
    5 years ago

    Same but sometimes it’s hard to move past especially the lying, at least for me which is unfortunate as I still care about them, but being their friend becomes difficult without trust (depending how serious the lies were)

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  • itachi_uchiha
    5 years ago

    Really... you hate lies?? Its like you never lie to anyone who is close to you

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      I always attempt not to. Don't like doing it and see no point in it, especially if I am close to them. If I lie to anyone it's to people I am not close to. If I am close to someone it is because I respect them. Otherwise I wouldn't want them close.

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      • itachi_uchiha
        5 years ago

        Your lie doesn't seems practical

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        • [Old Memory]
          5 years ago

          Why do you say that?
          Why isn't it practical?

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